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  • Budget Thanksgiving — Making Enough 

    Budget Thanksgiving — Making Enough 

      There’s a moment each year — usually sometime in the second week of November — when people start looking at the grocery flyers a little differently.

    Not with excitement.

    Not with the old holiday anticipation.

    But with calculation.

    We used to joke about Thanksgiving being the one meal that knocked you into a food coma, the sacred tradition of overeating as if it were part of the liturgy. But these days, there are families out there just trying to get by — and they’re not thinking about turkey naps or stuffing round two. They’re thinking about the numbers. They’re thinking about the bill.

    They’re thinking, How do I make a holiday out of what I can barely make a Tuesday out of?

    And if you listen closely — not to the news, not to the politicians, but to the people — you’ll hear a quiet truth humming beneath everything:

    It’s not that we don’t want the feast.

    It’s that the money we have says something different.

    I’ve walked through enough store aisles to know that holiday displays can feel like a taunt when your pockets aren’t lined the same way they used to be. The mountain of canned cranberry sauce. The towers of boxed stuffing. The frozen turkeys, which appear to be sagging inside their plastic, as if exhausted from waiting for a family that can afford them.

    And behind those shelves, somewhere in line, is a parent calculating the cost of every side dish.

    Someone is silently deciding between a whole bird and a pack of legs.

    Someone choosing between dessert and a few extra days of groceries.

    There is a shame that creeps in when the holiday table doesn’t look like the commercials — a quiet ache, the kind you don’t talk about.

    But I want to tell you something that the world doesn’t say loud enough:

    You can still have a good Thanksgiving.

    Even when money is tight.

    Even when the table looks different.

    Even when the feast you imagined is scaled down into something far smaller, far simpler — far more honest.

    It might not knock you into a coma.

    It might not leave leftovers for three days.

    It might not impress anyone scrolling past your photos.

    But it can give you something else.

    Something quieter.

    Something deeper.

    Something people forget to be thankful for.

    It can give you presence.

    It can give you a connection.

    It can give you the kind of memory that doesn’t need gravy to feel full.

    I’ve eaten my fair share of big meals — the kind that leave you leaning back, hands on your stomach, laughing because there’s nothing left to do but submit to gravity. But I’ve also eaten the small ones, the humble plates made from what a household could scrape together. And here’s what I’ve learned watching families stretch a dollar and a dream across a table:

    The memories that stay with you aren’t always the ones built from abundance.

    Sometimes they’re carved from scarcity.

    Sometimes they’re shaped from the simple miracle of still being together.

    A roasted chicken instead of a turkey.

    Cornbread instead of rolls.

    Canned green beans dressed up with whatever you had in the pantry.

    A pie made with Cool Whip because heavy cream was too high this year.

    Small things.

    Humble things.

    Real things.

    People think a holiday is about the menu — but Thanksgiving, at its best, has always been about survival.

    About making it through another year.

    About holding close the people who made the hard days bearable.

    About honoring the hands that cooked, even when the fridge was nearly empty.

    There are families right now who are living that truth, whether they wanted to or not.

    So if this year your table is smaller…

    If the plates are fewer…

    If the meal is simpler…

    If the turkey is swapped for something that fits the math…

    Please know this:

    You still deserve Thanksgiving.

    Not the performance of it — the heart of it.

    There is dignity in doing the best you can with what you have.

    There is grace in making enough when resources are scarce.

    There is courage in deciding that gratitude doesn’t have to be extravagant to be real.

    When you sit down to your meal — whether it’s a feast or a handful of comfort foods — take a breath. Look around. Feel the moment. Let it be enough. Let your presence be enough.

    Because long after the leftovers are gone, long after the dishes are washed, you won’t remember the price of the turkey.

    You’ll remember who sat with you.

    You’ll remember who you held close.

    You’ll remember that you made something out of nearly nothing — and that, in times like these, is its own kind of victory.

    This year, let Thanksgiving be less about the coma and more about the connection.

    Less about excess and more about enough.

    Less about the cost of the meal and more about the worth of the moment.

    When money is tight, meaning becomes easier to see.

    Sometimes that’s the gift we didn’t know we needed.

    Kyle J. Hayes

    kylehayesblog.com

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    Related Reading:

    The Most Basic Bread

    Nothing Wasted – The Grace Of Leftovers

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  • The Shared Table – Eating Together in Hard Times

    The Shared Table – Eating Together in Hard Times

      I’ve written before about family-style restaurants, about Sunday dinners, and the long-lost art of staying at the table after the plates are cleared. The way the conversation lingers even after the food is gone. The way silence settles differently when you’re not alone.

    But the older I get, the more I realize there are seasons in life when once a week isn’t enough. When being with family or people who feel like family isn’t just tradition — it’s survival.

    There are cultures where no one ever really leaves. Even after marriage, generations live under the same roof. They eat together, pray together, argue in the hallway, and make up around the stove. Grandparents pass down stories across the dinner table, not through group chats. Aunties and uncles drift in and out like weather systems. There’s always somebody home, always another chair, always another plate.

    From the outside, we look at those households and say, “Too crowded. Too dependent.”

    But they thrive anyway.

    Children grow up knowing they’re held by more than one pair of hands.

    Elders age, knowing they are still seen, still needed.

    Nobody has to pretend they’re an island.

    Is that really so bad?

    Here in the United States, we’re taught to crave distance like oxygen. We can’t wait to get out on our own, can’t wait to prove we’re independent, self-sufficient, “grown.” We call it freedom, and some of it is. There is something sacred about carving out your own life. But somewhere along the way, we confused independence with isolation. We decided that to stand tall, we had to stand alone.

    In our thirst for independence, a lot of us burned the bridges back home. We said things we can’t unsay. Rolled our eyes one too many times. Took the help, then resented the hands that gave it. Some parents, carrying their own ghosts, pushed their kids out into the world with a kind of hard love: sink or swim. Some kids, desperate to prove themselves, jumped before they could walk steadily.

    Some landed on their feet. The parents took the credit.

    Others didn’t land at all. They slipped through the cracks — a missed paycheck here, a bad relationship there, a layoff at the worst possible time. Some ended up in shelters, while others slept in cars, bounced from couch to couch, or lived on the street with their whole life zipped into a backpack.

    We tell ourselves that’s just how it goes. That everyone has a choice. That if they really wanted to, they’d “get back on their feet.”

    But people don’t fall apart all at once.

    They unravel slowly, thread by thread, often in silence.

    I understand this better than most.

    I was one of those people — feeling unwelcome in my own family home, trying to breathe in a house that felt too tight, too tense, too full of things nobody would say out loud. At seventeen, I signed my name on a line and left for the Army with no real plan, no sense of direction — just a vague conviction that I had to go. I didn’t know what I was chasing. I only knew what I was running from.

    I’ve been on my own ever since, making my own decisions. Some good, some bad, some I still feel in my bones. I burned bridges, too. Spoke out of anger. Walked away instead of talking it through. Convinced myself I didn’t need anyone. That needing people was a weakness.

    You tell yourself stories like that long enough, and they start to sound like the truth.

    Now I work with people who have quietly invited me into their lives.

    Co-workers. Friends. Families who say, “Come over, we’re having dinner,” and mean it.

    I’ve sat at their tables — fork in hand — watching the choreography of people who have stayed close to one another. Kids interrupting adults. Adults interrupting each other. Someone’s cousin is laughing too loudly. A grandmother fussing over whether you’ve eaten enough.

    And in those moments, I am both present and somewhere else. I’m looking at the food, but I’m also looking at the thing beneath it — the web of relationships, the unspoken history, the familiar arguments, the small forgivenesses that happen without a word.

    And what would it have been like to have that with a family of my own?

    Not just a Sunday call.

    Not just a holiday visit.

    But the everyday kind of belonging — the weeknight dinners with nothing to celebrate except the fact that you’re together.

    I wonder who I might have been if I had grown up with more chairs around the table, more chances to stay instead of run.

    That wondering doesn’t come from regret.

    It comes from recognition.

    Recognition of what connection can do — how it steadies you, how it humbles you, how it reminds you that you were never meant to go through life alone.

    The shared table is one of the last places in this country where we still practice that truth.

    When times get hard — when prices climb, when paychecks shrink, when systems fail — the table becomes a kind of refuge. It’s where someone decides to make a large pot of something that can be shared and enjoyed over time. Where cousins and neighbors and strays-who-became-family show up with whatever they have: a dish, a drink, a story, their tired selves. It’s where nobody asks for a résumé, just whether you’re hungry.

    I’ve written about food banks, church kitchens, and community centers — places where people line up for a hot meal and leave with more than calories. They leave with eye contact. With their name spoken kindly. With the knowledge that, at least for today, they were not invisible.

    Hunger isolates.

    But eating together does the opposite.

    Screens are always on, but doors often stay closed.

    We scroll through a thousand dinners while our own table stays dark.

    Meanwhile, someone in your neighborhood — maybe even someone you know — would show up if they knew you needed a place to sit.

    But somewhere along the way, we stopped knocking on doors.

    We stopped saying, “Come eat with us.”

    I wish I knew how to fix all of this — the homelessness, the hungry children, the broken families, the pride that keeps us apart. I don’t. I don’t have a blueprint for repairing what this culture has spent decades tearing down.

    What I do have is a small, stubborn belief in the power of the shared table.

    Maybe the first step isn’t policy or program — but an invitation.

    Maybe it’s offering help without attaching shame.

    Maybe it’s calling the kid you pushed out too soon and saying, “Do you want to come home for dinner?”

    Maybe it’s reaching out to the parent you’ve avoided and whispering, “Can we try again over a meal?”

    Maybe it’s rebuilding a bridge you thought was ash — not because you’re guaranteed a reunion, but because you believe someone might want to come back one day.

    One thing I do believe, deeply and without hesitation, is this:

    Families are better together.

    Whether they’re the ones we come from or the ones we gather along the way.

    The table won’t fix everything.

    It won’t erase history, won’t undo every mistake, won’t silence every hurt.

    But it is a place to start.

    A place where pride softens.

    Where hunger — for food, for belonging, for forgiveness — can finally speak.

    The table doesn’t have to be full to matter.

    It just has to be real.

    It just has to be offered.

    It just has to be shared.

    Kyle J. Hayes

    kylehayesblog.com

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    Related Reading:

    The Taste of Home,The taste of here

    Resources for Hard Times

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  • The Price of Hunger

    The Price of Hunger

      I’ve been thinking about what things cost—and not the kind you swipe a card for. I mean the deep arithmetic of living in a country where a cell phone plan can be unlimited, but food is not. Where the signal is strong, but the pantry is weak. Where the glow of a screen lights up a car window because that car has become a home.

    Almost everyone I know carries the world in their pocket. You can stream news of wars, scroll through lives curated to look full, and order meals you can’t afford to make. You can stay endlessly connected and still be utterly alone. The internet promised us closeness, but it delivered distraction. It can be a tool, yes—a way to organize, inform, share—but more often it steals the most human thing we have: presence.

    We’ve mistaken communication for connection. And in the process, we’ve forgotten what togetherness feels like.

    Yet hunger—real hunger—has a way of bringing humanity back into focus.

    When the cupboards empty and the paychecks stop, when storms tear down homes or fires erase entire neighborhoods, something ancient stirs in us. The same thing that once made neighbors knock on doors with covered dishes, or gather in church basements with ladles and folding chairs. In the worst times, people still find their way to one another. Hunger is cruel, but it’s also clarifying. It reminds us that survival was never meant to be a solo act.

    After disasters—after hurricanes, blackouts, floods—it’s always the same. People cook what’s left on their grills before the food spoils. They feed whoever shows up. They offer coffee, blankets, and soup. They don’t check a person’s party affiliation before pouring them a bowl. The same is true every day in quieter ways—at food banks, shelters, and community kitchens. The volunteers who show up to serve a hot meal aren’t there for headlines. They’re there because they remember what it’s like to need help.

    That’s the part we don’t talk about enough. The grace in hunger. The way it exposes the seams of a society, yes, but also the threads that still hold it together.

    We live in a nation where internet access is often cheaper than dinner. Where people can scroll for hours, but can’t afford eggs. Where the hunger of the people becomes another talking point, tossed around by politicians who will keep getting paid, even through shutdowns. They talk about “the economy” as if it were a creature separate from the hungry people. But I’ve never seen a spreadsheet feed a child.

    This isn’t the first time America has been hungry. We’ve seen breadlines stretch through city blocks and soup kitchens spring up in church basements. The difference now is distance. We’ve grown disconnected—not just from each other, but from the skills and spirit that carried those before us through hard times. They knew how to make a little stretch far. They understood that sharing wasn’t charity—it was a matter of survival.

    It may be time we remembered.

    When I write about food, I’m not writing about recipes; I’m writing about ritual. The act of caring. The alchemy of turning scarcity into sustenance. Bread from four ingredients. Beans with patience and salt. Casseroles that forgive substitutions. Meals that stretch and still have enough to share. These are more than thrift; they’re gestures of faith.

    But hunger asks something deeper than budgeting—it asks who we are when faced with someone else’s emptiness.

    Do we scroll past, or do we look up? Do we hoard, or do we serve? Do we build walls of data or bridges of care?

    The truth is, despite our wealth and connectivity, hunger remains what still binds us. It humbles us. It makes neighbors out of strangers. It reminds us that no matter how digital the world becomes, nothing replaces the sound of a shared meal—plates clinking, chairs scraping, laughter mixing with steam.

    That’s the humanity the internet can’t replicate. The kind that can’t be uploaded, only witnessed.

    So the answer to hunger begins not with politics or algorithms, but with presence. Remembering that someone, somewhere, is hungry tonight—and that we still have the power to feed them, even if only with our time, our attention, our company.

    The price of hunger isn’t just food insecurity; it’s the loss of empathy, the forgetting of our collective pulse. But it’s not too late to remember the rhythm.

    Because the thing about hunger—the painful, human truth—is that it teaches us what the internet can’t: that we were never meant to eat, to live, or to heal alone.

    Kyle J. Hayes

    kylehayesblog.com

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    If this reflection spoke to you, I invite you to explore the rest of the Humanity Through Food collection — stories of endurance, community, and the quiet grace of making “enough” in uncertain times.

    Each piece is a reminder that food is never just food — it’s a memory, a means of survival, and the most human act of all: sharing.

    Bread, Memory, and the Price of Enough

    How the simplest ingredients teach us what we’ve forgotten about patience and provision.

    The Weight of Enough – The Evolution of Survival Food

    A $10 casserole that became a symbol of family resilience and ingenuity.

    Nothing Wasted – The Grace of Leftovers

    A reflection on thrift, gratitude, and the sacred art of using what remains.

    Resources for Hard Times

    If you’re looking for practical help, food support, or community resources, you can visit the Salt, Ink & Soul Resources Page.

    👉 Resources for Hard Times

  • A Veterans Day Reflection

    A Veterans Day Reflection

    Lately, this space has been about doing what I can — small things, quiet things. Writing about food that costs less but still feeds fully. Reminding people that hard times have come before, and somehow, we made it. Trying to turn memory into a map, so maybe others can find their way through their own lean seasons.

    But today, I want to turn that attention outward — toward a different kind of endurance. Toward a group of people who also know what it means to do what they can — and often, far more. The ones who gave years, limbs, sanity, and sometimes everything, in the name of something larger than themselves.

    We set aside a day for them — Veterans Day — meant to honor those who served this country and, in too many cases, came home carrying its invisible weight. We say “thank you for your service,” and we mean it, most of us. But I keep wondering if that’s all we’ve learned to say.

    You don’t have to look far to see the contradiction: a country that never stops telling itself that it leaves no one behind, and yet, at almost every intersection, you can see someone it did. Veterans sleeping under bridges. Holding cardboard signs. Waiting at food pantries. People who once trained to survive in the most hostile places on earth are now fighting to survive at home.

    Yes, there are programs. Yes, there are benefits. But if you’ve ever stood in line at the VA or talked to someone navigating that system, you know the difference between what exists and what works.

    I’m not here to offer solutions. I don’t have them. I don’t know how to fix the machinery of a government that can spend billions on war but seems to run out of compassion on the return trip. What I know are smaller things — human things. I know how to say thank you. I know how to feed someone. I know how to remember.

    And maybe that’s something, even if it isn’t enough.

    When I write about food, I’m really writing about survival — about how we keep going when everything feels stripped bare. And in a way, that’s what veterans know better than anyone. They know how to keep moving through the noise. How to turn discipline into a ritual. How to make meaning in the middle of chaos. They’ve done it for us, even when we didn’t deserve it.

    The stories I tell, about stretching enough to feed a family — they’re small, domestic wars of endurance. Theirs were louder, bloodier, lonelier. But the lesson is the same: survival costs something, and someone always pays.

    I think about the phrase “thank you for your service.”

    How tidy it sounds. How quick. It fits easily into conversation, into tweets, into holiday speeches. But behind that politeness are pieces of people scattered across decades — the ones who never came back, and the ones who did, but not completely.

    I don’t have parades or medals to give.

    I have words — small, imperfect ones, but offered with weight.

    To every man and woman who served — thank you. For your strength, your sacrifice, your impossible patience. For doing what many couldn’t or wouldn’t.

    And to those still fighting their own wars at home — for housing, for healthcare, for peace of mind — I see you. I don’t have answers, but I have recognition. I have gratitude. And I have the conviction that we can do more, that we must do more, for a country that still calls itself free.

    So today, I’ll do what I can — remember, write, feed whoever I can reach.

    Because service shouldn’t end when the war does.

    Kyle J. Hayes

    kylehayesblog.com

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  • Nothing Wasted – The Grace of Leftovers

    Nothing Wasted – The Grace of Leftovers

    I grew up in a house where tomorrow lived in the refrigerator—stacked in mismatched containers, labeled only by memory and love. We didn’t have much, so we learned to keep what we had. A pot cooled on the stove like a promise. A slice of bread wrapped in a paper towel felt like insurance against whatever the next day might bring.

    So when I hear people say they don’t eat leftovers—say it like a flex, like the world owes them a fresh performance every night—I don’t understand. Why throw away another lunch, another midnight snack, another chance to make something out of almost nothing? Where I’m from, waste isn’t just waste. It’s disrespect—to the hands that cooked, to the hours that earned the money, to the hunger we remember even when our plates are full.

    Leftovers carry a particular kind of grace. They’re proof that somebody planned ahead, that care was stretched across time. They’re the echo of yesterday’s effort, still singing. And yes—I still cook too much on purpose. Because there’s a relief in opening the door after a heavy day and finding your own kindness waiting for you in a glass dish.

    The world will tell you that food is a spectacle, a one-night show with a Michelin curtain call. But in the kitchens where I learned, food was a continuum. It traveled: pot to plate to container to skillet to lunchbox to after-school bowl. It got better with time, the way beans deepen and soups settle into themselves. The trick wasn’t reinvention for the sake of reinvention. It was respect.

    Here’s what I’ve learned about the second life of supper—the way a meal can keep feeding us if we let it.

    Second Lives (How I use Leftovers)

    Bread

    • Day 2: Toast with a swipe of butter and a little salt.
    • Day 3: Croutons (cube, oil, bake) or breadcrumbs (dry, blitz, jar).
    • Day 4: Bread pudding—milk, eggs, a handful of raisins; Sunday morning becomes gentler.

    Roast Chicken or Baked Thighs

    • Night after: Shred into tacos or quesadillas with onions and a squeeze of lime.
    • Lunch: Chicken salad with whatever’s around—celery, apple, a spoon of yogurt or mayo.
    • Final act: Simmer bones with onion ends and carrot stubs to create a stock that tastes like patience.

    Rice

    • Day after: Fried rice—egg, scallions, soy, any lonely vegetables.
    • Or fold into soup to make it stick to your ribs.
    • Or press into a pan with oil for a crispy rice cake topped with a soft egg.

    Beans

    • Next day: Blend half for a quick refried spread; reserve the other half whole.
    • Stretch: Chili with whatever ground meat (or none), or spoon over toast with hot sauce.
    • Last stop: Bean soup—stock, garlic, a heel of Parmesan if you’ve got it.

    Roasted Vegetables

    • Breakfast: Hash in a skillet with an egg on top.
    • Bowl life: Toss with greens and grains; finish with vinaigrette.
    • Soup move: Blitz with warm stock, then drizzle with olive oil and a sprinkle of pepper.

    Pasta & Sauce

    • Baked life: Mix with a spoon of ricotta or cottage cheese, top with breadcrumbs, and bake.
    • Pan-fry in a little olive oil until the edges crackle; suddenly, the old becomes new.

    Casseroles

    • Next day slice: Reheat in a skillet with a little butter for crisp corners and a better story.
    • Croquettes: Mash, bread, pan-fry—humble gold.

    Steak, Pork Chops, or Sausage (leftover bits)

    • Fried rice, breakfast hash, or quick tacos with pickled onions.
    • Tiny pieces become flavor—sprinkled into greens or beans like punctuation.

    The Scraps

    • Herb stems → chimichurri or stock.
    • Parmesan rinds → soup.
    • The last spoon of jam → vinaigrette with vinegar and oil.
    • Pickle brine → marinade for chicken, or a bracing splash in potato salad.

    The Quiet Rules (Because Respect Is Also Safety)

    Cool food within two hours. Store in shallow containers.

    Most cooked dishes: 3–4 days in the fridge; many soups and casseroles freeze up to 2 months.

    Reheat until steaming—not just warm, but honest. Label and date so that in the future you don’t have to guess.

    The Weeklong Buffet We Call Thanksgiving

    Thanksgiving is the high holy day of leftovers—the only time Americans brag about cold turkey like it’s a love language. The fridge becomes a geography: stuffed with hills, cranberry lakes, and green-bean valleys. We start with the classic sandwich—turkey, dressing, gravy, maybe that scandalous swipe of cranberry—and then we get clever:

    • Turkey pot pie with leftover vegetables and gravy, topped with a quick crust.
    • Stuffing waffles pressed in the iron, crowned with a runny egg.
    • Mashed potato pancakes—crisp outside, forgiving inside.
    • Bone broth that warms the house for days.

    Thanksgiving teaches what the year forgets: abundance is not a single meal but a stretch of days made tender by forethought.

    When people say they won’t eat leftovers, I hear a kind of amnesia. I hear a forgetting of the hands that peeled, stirred, salted, tasted. I hear a forgetting of the mile between hunger and relief. In my kitchen, we don’t forget. We reheat. We revive. We say thank you twice.

    Because leftovers aren’t the past. They’re the persistence of care.

    They are proof that enough can last, if we let it.

    And in a life that asks so much of us, there’s no virtue more radical than refusing to throw away what still has love to give.

    Kyle J. Hayes

    kylehayesblog.com

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  • The Weight of Enough – The Evolution of Survival Food

    The Weight of Enough – The Evolution of Survival Food

      I remember coming home from school, kicking off my shoes by the door, and walking into the kitchen to find a pot of beans soaking in the sink. That image never left me. It was more than just food preparation—it was a message written in silence. It said, We’re making it work. It said, We may not have much, but we have a plan.

    Back then, in houses filled with too many people and too few dollars, meals weren’t about individual plates or balanced portions. There wasn’t a “starch, meat, and vegetable” arrangement like you see on cooking shows now. There was one pot. One pan. One chance to stretch a few ingredients into something that felt like home.

    Large families, tight budgets, and long days demanded creativity. You learned to make things that filled the space—both in the belly and in the heart. And that’s where casseroles came in. They were the unsung heroes of survival: layered, forgiving, endlessly adaptable. Casseroles didn’t judge you for being poor. They rewarded you for being resourceful.

    Everyone had their version. Some made them creamy with soup and cheese; others baked them dry and crisp on top. You could throw in whatever you had—no shame, no rules. Maybe that’s why I still love them. They remind me that abundance isn’t about what’s on the table—it’s about who’s gathered around it.

    Even now, I see casseroles for what they are: a working-class masterpiece. Budget-friendly, easy to make, and rich in the kind of flavor only struggle can season. They fed the tired, the hopeful, and the ones just trying to get through another week. They turned scarcity into comfort, and comfort into something close to gratitude.

    And among them all, one dish reigns supreme—The tuna casserole.

    There’s nothing glamorous about it. Just noodles, canned tuna, soup, and maybe a handful of frozen peas if you had them. But when it came out of the oven—bubbling, golden, smelling faintly of warmth and memory—it was enough. Enough to feed five. Enough to quiet the noise of hunger. Enough to make the world, for a few minutes, feel merciful.

    It wasn’t luxury that kept us going; it was the quiet faith that one can of tuna, a few noodles, and some love could be enough. Even now, it still is. For less than ten dollars, you can make a meal that hums with history—a dish that has fed generations without needing more than it asks for.

    That’s what I think about now, every time I pull a casserole from the oven. The weight of the pan in my hands feels heavier than it should. Maybe it’s not just the food—it’s the memory, the repetition of an act passed down from one generation to the next. Each time we stir, layer, and bake, we’re participating in something bigger than the recipe.

    We’re reminding ourselves that we come from people who made enough from almost nothing.

    And that, even in times like these, might be the most nourishing meal of all.

    This piece is part of The $10 Meals Collection—The recipes and reflections that sustained us when the world gave us little. Because food, at its best, has never been about wealth—it’s been about survival, love, and the quiet grace of making enough.

    Kyle J. Hayes

    kylehayesblog.com

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  • Bread, Memory, and the Price of Enough

    Bread, Memory, and the Price of Enough

    There were five of us—three girls and two boys—and we were poor. The kind of poor that leaves fingerprints on your adulthood. Back when “food stamps” weren’t digital cards but booklets you tore from and handed to the cashier like confessions. We weren’t the only ones, though it sometimes felt that way. Poverty has a way of isolating you, even when the whole block is living on the same prayer.

    Back then, families were closer. Sunday dinners were sacred, not just for the food but for the ritual of it. You could smell a neighborhood coming alive—collard greens wilting slowly on one stove, beans softening on another, cornbread baking somewhere down the street. These weren’t meals for show. They were meals that stuck to your ribs—food that held you up when money couldn’t. The kind of food that whispered, You’ll make it another week.

    Now, everything feels fragile. Groceries cost more than rent used to. People work two jobs and still stand in lines that stretch around food banks. The price of “enough” keeps climbing, and somehow, we’re supposed to just keep smiling through it.

      And with this government shutdown—when paychecks stop, and benefits are frozen—it’s hard not to feel that same hollow echo in the stomach that so many of us grew up with. You start to realize how close the edge really is, and how many are already there.

    We have celebrity chefs and cooking competitions, but fewer people know how to create something from almost nothing. Food has become entertainment instead of education. We scroll past videos of perfectly plated dishes while families debate whether to buy milk or gas. Somewhere between delivery apps and drive-thrus, we forgot how to feed ourselves.

    Maybe the answer isn’t some new system or trend. Perhaps it’s about remembering what our grandparents knew—the art of stretching a dollar, of savoring time itself, and learning to make the basics again. Bread. Beans. Rice. The things that built us.

    Because bread isn’t just flour, salt, yeast, and water, it’s patience. It’s a skill born from necessity. It’s history kneaded into muscle memory. Once you have the supplies, it’s cheaper than store-bought—and better for you, body and spirit alike. I’ve found that unfortified flour—the kind left untouched by additives—makes a difference. It’s raw, honest, and stripped down to its true essence.

    That’s what we need more of now.

    Less enrichment, more essence.

    Less spectacle, more survival.

    Learning to make the basics again might not fix everything, but it’s a start—a quiet way of reclaiming control in a world that continually raises the price of dignity. Because the table, when it’s full of simple food and shared stories, still has a kind of wealth that can’t be counted.

    And maybe that’s what it really means to eat something that sticks to your ribs.

    If you want to start anywhere, start with bread. The most basic bread is humble—just flour, salt, yeast, and water: no milk, no butter, no sugar. You stir, you wait, you fold. You give it time to rise, and it teaches you patience in return. Baked until golden and stiff on the outside, soft and honest on the inside. Tear it apart while it’s still warm, and you’ll understand why people around the world have made it for centuries. It’s not about luxury—it’s about survival, about care, about transforming the simplest things into something that sustains.

      And in moments like this—when uncertainty feels like the new normal—maybe that kind of bread, bare and honest, isn’t just food. Perhaps it’s a reminder that we’ve been here before and we made it through.

    Kyle J. Hayes

    kylehayesblog.com

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    Note from the Author:

    If this reflection stirred something in you — that quiet urge to create, to remember, to feed — you can start where I did: with bread.

    I’ve shared the simplest recipe I know, one that costs little and teaches much.

    👉 The Most Basic Bread Recipe

    Four ingredients. A little patience.

    And a reminder that even in hard times, we can still make enough.

    Resources for Hard Times

    If you’re looking for practical help, food support, or community resources, you can visit the Salt, Ink & Soul Resources Page.

    👉 Resources for Hard Times

  • The Most Basic Bread

    The Most Basic Bread

    (Flour. Salt. Yeast. Water. Nothing else.)

    Ingredients

    • 3 cups (375g) unfortified all-purpose or bread flour
    • 1 teaspoon fine sea salt
    • ½ teaspoon active dry yeast
    • 1¼ cups (300ml) warm water (around 105–110°F / 40°C)

    Instructions

    1. Mix the Basics
    2. In a large bowl, combine the flour, salt, and yeast. Pour in the warm water and stir with a spoon or your hands until it forms a shaggy, sticky dough. Don’t overthink it—just bring it together.
    3. Rest and Wait
    4. Cover the bowl with a damp cloth or plastic wrap. Let it sit at room temperature for 12–18 hours. Time is your secret ingredient here—patience transforms the dough into something alive.
    5. Shape and Rest Again
    6. When the dough has doubled in size and is dotted with bubbles, scrape it onto a floured surface. Gently fold it over a few times, shaping it into a round loaf. Place it on parchment paper or a lightly floured towel, cover again, and let it rest for 1–2 more hours.
    7. Preheat and Bake
    8. Place a heavy pot with a lid (like a Dutch oven) into your oven and preheat to 450°F (230°C). When hot, carefully place your dough inside, cover, and bake for 30 minutes. Remove the lid and bake for an additional 10–15 minutes, until the crust turns a deep golden brown and becomes hard.
    9. Cool and Remember
    10. Let it cool before slicing—if you can resist the temptation. The crust will crackle, the inside will steam. Tear off a piece, hold it warm in your hands, and remember that this is what survival tastes like.

    Notes

    • If you only have instant yeast, reduce to ¼ teaspoon.
    • Whole wheat or rye flour can replace up to one-third of the white flour for more depth.
    • The flavor deepens overnight, just like the memory of meals that once held families together.

    This bread doesn’t ask for luxury—just time, trust, and a little hunger to remind you what’s real.

    Resources for Hard Times

    If you’re looking for practical help, food support, or community resources, you can visit the Salt, Ink & Soul Resources Page.

    👉 Resources for Hard Times

  • A Gentle Return

    A Gentle Return

    Salt, Ink & Soul — Field Journal Series, Part III

    It was as if I’d never started. All my momentum gone — vanished like breath on glass. The old voice returned, whispering reasons to stay still.

    Why go? It asked. You can see everything on a screen.

    Going outside is what made you sick.

    Your car is too big. The police will stop you.

    Each thought a stone in my gut, each hesitation dressed as reason.

    Still, I drove — slow, deliberate, a man testing the edge of his own promise. The sun climbed high over Albuquerque as if to dare me. I turned off Montaño and followed the signs toward Pueblo Montaño Picnic Area, a place recommended by a co-worker. At first, it seemed I was never meant to find it, but I did, somehow.

    At the entrance, the first thing I saw was the carvings — towering guardians hewn from fallen trees. Birds poised mid-flight, turtles climbing, coyotes howling into the stillness. Their faces caught the morning light, wood polished by wind and time.

    For a moment, I thought about turning around. The same quiet panic pressed behind my ribs: You’ve seen enough. You can take a photo from the car. No one will know the difference.

    But something in the carvings — maybe the permanence of their stillness — silenced the argument. I stepped out.

    The path curved through low brush and cottonwoods, beginning to yellow with the season. The air was sharp with the scent of sage and sun-warmed dust. My body, still cautious from its revolt, protested at first — a cough, an ache, a slow complaint in the knees. But the further I walked, the more those protests dissolved into breath.

    At a small bench near a patch of golden brush, I stopped. The wood was warm. The wind moved like a whisper that had nothing to prove. From where I sat, I could see the Rio Grande glinting between the trees — quiet, relentless, alive.

    And for the first time in days, I didn’t feel like a man recovering. I felt like one returning.

    Progress may not come in the form of long drives or grand destinations. Maybe it’s just the act of standing outside yourself long enough to see where you are.

    The world isn’t waiting to be conquered — it’s waiting to be witnessed.

    As I turned back toward the car, the carvings seemed different. The bird looked less like it was guarding the trail and more like it was blessing the departure. The coyotes, once frozen in howls, now looked like they were calling me forward.

    Maybe that’s what growth really looks like — not grand adventures, but small acts of motion.

    What do you think… should I keep going?

    Kyle J. Hayes

    kylehayesblog.com

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  • Notes for the Road

    Notes for the Road

    Salt, Ink & Soul — Field Journal Series, Part II

    We’ve all heard the phrase, “I’m not as young as I used to be.”

    But for me, it’s never really been about age — it’s about gravity. The pull of places, the way life settles you down unless you fight to stay awake inside it. Some people live where they were born, their stories looping through familiar streets and steady skies. I’ve always lived apart — even when I was close, I was at the edge.

    People call it a wandering spirit.

    I prefer searching spirit. Wandering implies lostness. Searching carries intent — a hunger for something not yet found but deeply felt.

    The Pull

    When I first moved to Albuquerque, the desert had its own kind of whisper. The space between things felt wider here — room for thoughts to stretch, for silence to mean something. I learned about  Earthship homes — houses built from recycled materials, designed to sustain themselves off-grid and to live with the land rather than against it.

    It wasn’t just their design that intrigued me — it was their defiance. They refused permission. They were proof that you could live differently and still live beautifully.

    So I made the trip north.

    The Earthships

    The drive into Taos feels like crossing a threshold — sagebrush to sand, sky expanding until it seems to hum. Then, at the edge of nowhere, the Earthships appear like a dream half-finished — domed roofs, bottle walls shimmering in sunlight, glass catching sky.

    I took the tour slowly. Inside, the air felt calm, held. The walls glowed faintly green where glass bottles caught the light. Planters of herbs ran along windows, drinking sunlight and water collected from the rain. It was quiet — not empty, just balanced.

    The guide spoke about sustainability, but I was hearing something else — a kind of philosophy of living: build with what’s been discarded, make beauty out of survival. It reminded me that creation isn’t always new; sometimes it’s just rearranged endurance.

    “Exterior of Earthship home near Taos, New Mexico”
    exterior of earthship

      The Staircase

    From Taos, I drove south to Santa Fe, to the Loretto Chapel. I’d heard the story — the mysterious carpenter, the spiral staircase with no visible supports, built after the nuns prayed for a solution. Seeing it in person was something else.

    The staircase curves upward like a question that answers itself — no nails, no center post, just precision and faith. I stood beneath it, tracing the grain of the wood with my eyes, thinking about the people who build because they have to believe it will stand.

    Stairs said to be made by an Angel

      The Gorge

    Then there was the Rio Grande Gorge — where the land simply falls away.

    I parked, stepped out, and felt the wind announce itself. Heights and I have never been friends. I walked to the railing anyway.

    Below, the river glinted like a silver thread stitching through time. When a semi-truck passed, the bridge shuddered beneath my feet, and I gripped the rail tighter than I’d admit. But I stayed long enough to feel it — that strange marriage of fear and awe.

    breathtaking View
    View from the bridge

    That’s what this road was always about. Not conquering fear — just walking out far enough to meet it honestly.

    On the drive home, I realized I wasn’t chasing wonder anymore. I was studying it — seeing what remains when the awe fades and only understanding is left.

    Maybe the Earthship homes, the staircase, and the gorge were all saying the same thing:

    Build something that endures.

    Trust what you can’t see holding you.

    Look down, but don’t stay afraid.

    The road home was quieter. The car hummed its low prayer, tires counting miles of reflection. I thought about all I’d seen, and how every place had its lesson written in silence.

    Maybe I’m still searching, but it’s a better kind of searching now. Not for arrival — but for alignment. For the places and people that hold when the ground trembles.

    The road doesn’t always offer answers.

    Kyle J. Hayes

    kylehayesblog.com

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