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  • Nothing Wasted – The Grace of Leftovers

    Nothing Wasted – The Grace of Leftovers

    I grew up in a house where tomorrow lived in the refrigerator—stacked in mismatched containers, labeled only by memory and love. We didn’t have much, so we learned to keep what we had. A pot cooled on the stove like a promise. A slice of bread wrapped in a paper towel felt like insurance against whatever the next day might bring.

    So when I hear people say they don’t eat leftovers—say it like a flex, like the world owes them a fresh performance every night—I don’t understand. Why throw away another lunch, another midnight snack, another chance to make something out of almost nothing? Where I’m from, waste isn’t just waste. It’s disrespect—to the hands that cooked, to the hours that earned the money, to the hunger we remember even when our plates are full.

    Leftovers carry a particular kind of grace. They’re proof that somebody planned ahead, that care was stretched across time. They’re the echo of yesterday’s effort, still singing. And yes—I still cook too much on purpose. Because there’s a relief in opening the door after a heavy day and finding your own kindness waiting for you in a glass dish.

    The world will tell you that food is a spectacle, a one-night show with a Michelin curtain call. But in the kitchens where I learned, food was a continuum. It traveled: pot to plate to container to skillet to lunchbox to after-school bowl. It got better with time, the way beans deepen and soups settle into themselves. The trick wasn’t reinvention for the sake of reinvention. It was respect.

    Here’s what I’ve learned about the second life of supper—the way a meal can keep feeding us if we let it.

    Second Lives (How I use Leftovers)

    Bread

    • Day 2: Toast with a swipe of butter and a little salt.
    • Day 3: Croutons (cube, oil, bake) or breadcrumbs (dry, blitz, jar).
    • Day 4: Bread pudding—milk, eggs, a handful of raisins; Sunday morning becomes gentler.

    Roast Chicken or Baked Thighs

    • Night after: Shred into tacos or quesadillas with onions and a squeeze of lime.
    • Lunch: Chicken salad with whatever’s around—celery, apple, a spoon of yogurt or mayo.
    • Final act: Simmer bones with onion ends and carrot stubs to create a stock that tastes like patience.

    Rice

    • Day after: Fried rice—egg, scallions, soy, any lonely vegetables.
    • Or fold into soup to make it stick to your ribs.
    • Or press into a pan with oil for a crispy rice cake topped with a soft egg.

    Beans

    • Next day: Blend half for a quick refried spread; reserve the other half whole.
    • Stretch: Chili with whatever ground meat (or none), or spoon over toast with hot sauce.
    • Last stop: Bean soup—stock, garlic, a heel of Parmesan if you’ve got it.

    Roasted Vegetables

    • Breakfast: Hash in a skillet with an egg on top.
    • Bowl life: Toss with greens and grains; finish with vinaigrette.
    • Soup move: Blitz with warm stock, then drizzle with olive oil and a sprinkle of pepper.

    Pasta & Sauce

    • Baked life: Mix with a spoon of ricotta or cottage cheese, top with breadcrumbs, and bake.
    • Pan-fry in a little olive oil until the edges crackle; suddenly, the old becomes new.

    Casseroles

    • Next day slice: Reheat in a skillet with a little butter for crisp corners and a better story.
    • Croquettes: Mash, bread, pan-fry—humble gold.

    Steak, Pork Chops, or Sausage (leftover bits)

    • Fried rice, breakfast hash, or quick tacos with pickled onions.
    • Tiny pieces become flavor—sprinkled into greens or beans like punctuation.

    The Scraps

    • Herb stems → chimichurri or stock.
    • Parmesan rinds → soup.
    • The last spoon of jam → vinaigrette with vinegar and oil.
    • Pickle brine → marinade for chicken, or a bracing splash in potato salad.

    The Quiet Rules (Because Respect Is Also Safety)

    Cool food within two hours. Store in shallow containers.

    Most cooked dishes: 3–4 days in the fridge; many soups and casseroles freeze up to 2 months.

    Reheat until steaming—not just warm, but honest. Label and date so that in the future you don’t have to guess.

    The Weeklong Buffet We Call Thanksgiving

    Thanksgiving is the high holy day of leftovers—the only time Americans brag about cold turkey like it’s a love language. The fridge becomes a geography: stuffed with hills, cranberry lakes, and green-bean valleys. We start with the classic sandwich—turkey, dressing, gravy, maybe that scandalous swipe of cranberry—and then we get clever:

    • Turkey pot pie with leftover vegetables and gravy, topped with a quick crust.
    • Stuffing waffles pressed in the iron, crowned with a runny egg.
    • Mashed potato pancakes—crisp outside, forgiving inside.
    • Bone broth that warms the house for days.

    Thanksgiving teaches what the year forgets: abundance is not a single meal but a stretch of days made tender by forethought.

    When people say they won’t eat leftovers, I hear a kind of amnesia. I hear a forgetting of the hands that peeled, stirred, salted, tasted. I hear a forgetting of the mile between hunger and relief. In my kitchen, we don’t forget. We reheat. We revive. We say thank you twice.

    Because leftovers aren’t the past. They’re the persistence of care.

    They are proof that enough can last, if we let it.

    And in a life that asks so much of us, there’s no virtue more radical than refusing to throw away what still has love to give.

    Kyle J. Hayes

    kylehayesblog.com

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  • The Death of the Family Reunion

    The Death of the Family Reunion

       There was a time when the family reunion was a sovereign nation. It was its own country—borderless, sprawling, stitched together by folding chairs and potato salad, the language of inside jokes and side-eyes, the music of Stevie Wonder & Michael Jackson playing under the shade of Pine trees. A time when cousins you hadn’t seen in three summers ran up to you like the years hadn’t passed at all. When your great-aunt sat in the middle of the picnic like a tribal elder, commanding respect simply by being.

    But those days are dying.

    Today, we still have the cookout, but it’s smaller—more intimate. Just mama and them, maybe a stray cousin or two, whoever was close enough to text the night before. The sprawling tree has been pruned down to a sapling. Third and fourth cousins have become strangers. The great-aunts and uncles who used to hold court, the ones who could make feuding relatives hug just long enough for the picture—they are passing on. And no one has stepped up to replace them.

    The family reunion wasn’t just a party. It was a performance of survival. It was where the family came to bear witness to itself. You’ve got to see the uncles who hadn’t spoken in years sitting at the same table, grunting through peace for a few hours because Big Mama asked them to. You saw your cousins—those living testaments to the places your blood had wandered—The Quad-Cities, St. Louis, Albuquerque—all gathered in one place. You saw what your people had endured. The reunion was a history lesson with Kool-Aid and pound cake.

    And then there were the secrets. Every family has them—the ones you whisper about in the kitchen when you think the kids aren’t listening. The reunion was where those secrets were kept, not because they were shameful, but because they were binding. The elders held them like scrolls, as if they were holy texts. They knew which stories to tell and which to carry to their graves, and somehow that discipline kept the family whole.

    Now, the elders are gone. The scrolls are scattered. The secrets have slipped into the wind, sometimes aired out in group chats, other times left to die in silence. And without the keepers of the covenant, we are drifting.

    We live in an era of curated distance. We say “family” but mean it like a password, not a promise. The younger ones, the ones raised on social media and soft boundaries, have little appetite for gathering with people who once judged them, who might still hold the memory of their worst mistakes. The old guard could make you come anyway—make you show up, make you sit in the heat, make you pass the potato salad to the cousin you swore you’d never speak to again. They could force you to remember that family is not optional.

    And yet, here we are—choosing.

    There is grief in this. Grief not just for the elders who are gone, but for the version of ourselves that was possible when we stood together. Grief for the messy, complicated love that once kept us tethered.

    But there may also be a call. We may have to decide whether the reunion dies with them or is reborn through us. It’s our turn to be the ones who hold the secrets, who call the roll, who get the feuding cousins to show up just long enough to remember that they still share a name.

    The family reunion is not gone. It is waiting—like a pot on the back burner, simmering slow, hoping someone remembers to stir it.

    The question is whether we will.

    By Kyle J. Hayes

    kylehayesblog.com

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    Thinking of Family Reunions makes me wonder, what’s your favorite dish to eat or to bring? Please leave a comment.