Tag: gratitude

  • What I’m Grateful For on the Days After

    What I’m Grateful For on the Days After

    Salt, Ink & Soul — Weekend Reflection

    The days after Thanksgiving have always felt like a breath I didn’t realize I was holding. The noise fades, the house settles, and suddenly there’s space — space to think, to feel, to hear the quiet truths that get lost in the rush of the holiday.

    There’s a different kind of gratitude that lives in these slower hours.

    Not the big, performative kind that gets spoken around tables or posted online.

    But the smaller, steadier kind — the gratitude that rises from the life you return to when the celebration ends.

    I’m grateful that I have a place to stay — a space that holds me, shelters me, and gives me room to breathe.

    I’m grateful that I have food to eat — not just the leftovers stacked in the fridge, but the comfort of knowing the next meal is within reach.

    I’m grateful that I have a job to go to — a place to show up, to contribute, to remain anchored in a world that often feels uncertain.

    And I’m grateful — deeply, quietly grateful — for my friends.

    The ones who check in without being asked.

    The ones who text or call just to make sure I’m alright.

    The ones who notice the small shifts in my voice and remind me I don’t have to carry everything alone.

    That kind of care is its own blessing.

    Soft, steady, and honest.

    I’m grateful for the leftovers that gently carry me into the days ahead.

    For the containers packed a little fuller than expected.

    For the warmth of yesterday lingering inside today’s refrigerator light.

    Some blessings arrive loud.

    Others whisper.

    And I’m learning — slowly, steadily — to hear both.

    Kyle J. Hayes

    kylehayesblog.com

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  • A Veterans Day Reflection

    A Veterans Day Reflection

    Lately, this space has been about doing what I can — small things, quiet things. Writing about food that costs less but still feeds fully. Reminding people that hard times have come before, and somehow, we made it. Trying to turn memory into a map, so maybe others can find their way through their own lean seasons.

    But today, I want to turn that attention outward — toward a different kind of endurance. Toward a group of people who also know what it means to do what they can — and often, far more. The ones who gave years, limbs, sanity, and sometimes everything, in the name of something larger than themselves.

    We set aside a day for them — Veterans Day — meant to honor those who served this country and, in too many cases, came home carrying its invisible weight. We say “thank you for your service,” and we mean it, most of us. But I keep wondering if that’s all we’ve learned to say.

    You don’t have to look far to see the contradiction: a country that never stops telling itself that it leaves no one behind, and yet, at almost every intersection, you can see someone it did. Veterans sleeping under bridges. Holding cardboard signs. Waiting at food pantries. People who once trained to survive in the most hostile places on earth are now fighting to survive at home.

    Yes, there are programs. Yes, there are benefits. But if you’ve ever stood in line at the VA or talked to someone navigating that system, you know the difference between what exists and what works.

    I’m not here to offer solutions. I don’t have them. I don’t know how to fix the machinery of a government that can spend billions on war but seems to run out of compassion on the return trip. What I know are smaller things — human things. I know how to say thank you. I know how to feed someone. I know how to remember.

    And maybe that’s something, even if it isn’t enough.

    When I write about food, I’m really writing about survival — about how we keep going when everything feels stripped bare. And in a way, that’s what veterans know better than anyone. They know how to keep moving through the noise. How to turn discipline into a ritual. How to make meaning in the middle of chaos. They’ve done it for us, even when we didn’t deserve it.

    The stories I tell, about stretching enough to feed a family — they’re small, domestic wars of endurance. Theirs were louder, bloodier, lonelier. But the lesson is the same: survival costs something, and someone always pays.

    I think about the phrase “thank you for your service.”

    How tidy it sounds. How quick. It fits easily into conversation, into tweets, into holiday speeches. But behind that politeness are pieces of people scattered across decades — the ones who never came back, and the ones who did, but not completely.

    I don’t have parades or medals to give.

    I have words — small, imperfect ones, but offered with weight.

    To every man and woman who served — thank you. For your strength, your sacrifice, your impossible patience. For doing what many couldn’t or wouldn’t.

    And to those still fighting their own wars at home — for housing, for healthcare, for peace of mind — I see you. I don’t have answers, but I have recognition. I have gratitude. And I have the conviction that we can do more, that we must do more, for a country that still calls itself free.

    So today, I’ll do what I can — remember, write, feed whoever I can reach.

    Because service shouldn’t end when the war does.

    Kyle J. Hayes

    kylehayesblog.com

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  • Nothing Wasted – The Grace of Leftovers

    Nothing Wasted – The Grace of Leftovers

    I grew up in a house where tomorrow lived in the refrigerator—stacked in mismatched containers, labeled only by memory and love. We didn’t have much, so we learned to keep what we had. A pot cooled on the stove like a promise. A slice of bread wrapped in a paper towel felt like insurance against whatever the next day might bring.

    So when I hear people say they don’t eat leftovers—say it like a flex, like the world owes them a fresh performance every night—I don’t understand. Why throw away another lunch, another midnight snack, another chance to make something out of almost nothing? Where I’m from, waste isn’t just waste. It’s disrespect—to the hands that cooked, to the hours that earned the money, to the hunger we remember even when our plates are full.

    Leftovers carry a particular kind of grace. They’re proof that somebody planned ahead, that care was stretched across time. They’re the echo of yesterday’s effort, still singing. And yes—I still cook too much on purpose. Because there’s a relief in opening the door after a heavy day and finding your own kindness waiting for you in a glass dish.

    The world will tell you that food is a spectacle, a one-night show with a Michelin curtain call. But in the kitchens where I learned, food was a continuum. It traveled: pot to plate to container to skillet to lunchbox to after-school bowl. It got better with time, the way beans deepen and soups settle into themselves. The trick wasn’t reinvention for the sake of reinvention. It was respect.

    Here’s what I’ve learned about the second life of supper—the way a meal can keep feeding us if we let it.

    Second Lives (How I use Leftovers)

    Bread

    • Day 2: Toast with a swipe of butter and a little salt.
    • Day 3: Croutons (cube, oil, bake) or breadcrumbs (dry, blitz, jar).
    • Day 4: Bread pudding—milk, eggs, a handful of raisins; Sunday morning becomes gentler.

    Roast Chicken or Baked Thighs

    • Night after: Shred into tacos or quesadillas with onions and a squeeze of lime.
    • Lunch: Chicken salad with whatever’s around—celery, apple, a spoon of yogurt or mayo.
    • Final act: Simmer bones with onion ends and carrot stubs to create a stock that tastes like patience.

    Rice

    • Day after: Fried rice—egg, scallions, soy, any lonely vegetables.
    • Or fold into soup to make it stick to your ribs.
    • Or press into a pan with oil for a crispy rice cake topped with a soft egg.

    Beans

    • Next day: Blend half for a quick refried spread; reserve the other half whole.
    • Stretch: Chili with whatever ground meat (or none), or spoon over toast with hot sauce.
    • Last stop: Bean soup—stock, garlic, a heel of Parmesan if you’ve got it.

    Roasted Vegetables

    • Breakfast: Hash in a skillet with an egg on top.
    • Bowl life: Toss with greens and grains; finish with vinaigrette.
    • Soup move: Blitz with warm stock, then drizzle with olive oil and a sprinkle of pepper.

    Pasta & Sauce

    • Baked life: Mix with a spoon of ricotta or cottage cheese, top with breadcrumbs, and bake.
    • Pan-fry in a little olive oil until the edges crackle; suddenly, the old becomes new.

    Casseroles

    • Next day slice: Reheat in a skillet with a little butter for crisp corners and a better story.
    • Croquettes: Mash, bread, pan-fry—humble gold.

    Steak, Pork Chops, or Sausage (leftover bits)

    • Fried rice, breakfast hash, or quick tacos with pickled onions.
    • Tiny pieces become flavor—sprinkled into greens or beans like punctuation.

    The Scraps

    • Herb stems → chimichurri or stock.
    • Parmesan rinds → soup.
    • The last spoon of jam → vinaigrette with vinegar and oil.
    • Pickle brine → marinade for chicken, or a bracing splash in potato salad.

    The Quiet Rules (Because Respect Is Also Safety)

    Cool food within two hours. Store in shallow containers.

    Most cooked dishes: 3–4 days in the fridge; many soups and casseroles freeze up to 2 months.

    Reheat until steaming—not just warm, but honest. Label and date so that in the future you don’t have to guess.

    The Weeklong Buffet We Call Thanksgiving

    Thanksgiving is the high holy day of leftovers—the only time Americans brag about cold turkey like it’s a love language. The fridge becomes a geography: stuffed with hills, cranberry lakes, and green-bean valleys. We start with the classic sandwich—turkey, dressing, gravy, maybe that scandalous swipe of cranberry—and then we get clever:

    • Turkey pot pie with leftover vegetables and gravy, topped with a quick crust.
    • Stuffing waffles pressed in the iron, crowned with a runny egg.
    • Mashed potato pancakes—crisp outside, forgiving inside.
    • Bone broth that warms the house for days.

    Thanksgiving teaches what the year forgets: abundance is not a single meal but a stretch of days made tender by forethought.

    When people say they won’t eat leftovers, I hear a kind of amnesia. I hear a forgetting of the hands that peeled, stirred, salted, tasted. I hear a forgetting of the mile between hunger and relief. In my kitchen, we don’t forget. We reheat. We revive. We say thank you twice.

    Because leftovers aren’t the past. They’re the persistence of care.

    They are proof that enough can last, if we let it.

    And in a life that asks so much of us, there’s no virtue more radical than refusing to throw away what still has love to give.

    Kyle J. Hayes

    kylehayesblog.com

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