Tag: Road Trip

  • The Road Teaches Us to Listen

    The Road Teaches Us to Listen

    Salt, Ink & Soul — Field Journal Series, Part I

    The road begins long before you step onto it.

    For me, it starts with a small decision that never feels small: go. That’s the quiet contract I sign with myself in the dark—turn off the clock, get out of bed, make coffee even if the morning looks like a bad idea. Rain against the window, frost on the glass, wind leaning into the stucco—you go anyway. Jacket. Keys. A hand to the door, a muttered prayer that sounds like breath.

    Inside the car, I choose the season by touch. Heat in winter until my fingers thaw. Air in summer until the cabin stops tasting like sleep. The engine wakes with that low, devotional sound—humble, faithful, unglamorous. I sit with it a moment, letting my doubts burn off like fog on a warm hood. There’s always a reason to cancel. Fatigue. Weather. The long shadow of a mood I can’t name. The old lie that today isn’t the day.

    I have learned this much about myself: the early stops are the trap. You pause for a snack you don’t need, a second coffee you’re already holding, and suddenly the road becomes optional. Detours multiply. The invisible hand is never dramatic—it taps your shoulder with errands and returns you safely to the couch. So I pass the first exit. I don’t look right or left. I’ve stocked the snacks, filled the tank, and told no one where I’m headed. Commitment looks like a car at speed. The on-ramp curves up like a question, then drops you into a lane where the only language is forward.

    The interstate is my point of no return. The lines gather under the car like stitches sewing me to the day. I breathe out—a slight relief that feels larger than it should. I did the hard part. I left. I find the playlist that knows my miles: songs that ride low and steady, not too eager, not too clever. Something with space in it. Enough room for the land to speak.

    This is where the road begins to teach, if you let it.

    It teaches patience first. Mile markers count like beads through your fingers. Semis pass with the dignity of whales. The horizon doesn’t arrive; it reveals. You become a witness to your own habits—how your chest loosens after the second exit, how your jaw unclenches when the first long stretch unfolds, how your shoulders drop when the radio fades to static. The world steals the choreography you keep trying to impose on it. You start to hear the hum—tires negotiating asphalt, crosswinds tuning the cabin to a note you can almost name, the slight rattle of a life you’ve packed in a hurry.

    It teaches with small mercies. A gas station clerk who calls you “love” without making it a performance. A church sign that gets the parable right by accident. A plastic bag snared on a fence, stubborn against the wind. The familiar ache of a diner mug against your palms. Eggs that taste better for the road it took to get there. The cook who doesn’t look up but understands precisely who you are: someone who left a house this morning to go looking for something they can’t carry back in both hands.

    It teaches with the kind of quiet that isn’t empty. Out here, silence has texture. It lives in the low whine of steel guardrails, in the dry grass that whispers even when there’s no breeze, in the pale blue that the sky saves for days like this. You roll the window down and the air meets you, honest—dust, oil, a memory of rain. Somewhere just beyond the shoulder, a hawk draws solemn circles in a column of heat and refuses to explain itself.

    The road talks in fragments and expects you to assemble meaning. A boarded-up motel where someone once honeymooned in good faith. A burial of sun-bleached crosses huddled on a ridge. A billboard sermon that works only because the sky won’t stop listening. Nothing arrives tidy. The point isn’t clarity. The point is attention.

    I used to believe you traveled to escape your life for a while. Now I think you travel to stop lying to it. Movement scrapes the varnish off your days. It replaces routine with exposure: the vulnerability of a stalled engine, the humility of a wrong turn, the grace of a stranger who points you toward a road you didn’t know you needed. Each mile asks a better question than the one before it. Who are you when nobody is asking for your performance? Who are you when the only thing to do is keep going?

    The farther I get from my usual noise, the more I understand the discipline of listening. I turn the music down until the speakers barely breathe. I count cattle guards without trying. I let the wind dictate when the window goes up or down. The road becomes a metronome for the part of me that won’t learn patience any other way. My foot steadies. My mind does not empty; it organizes. Old griefs get filed under new light. The never-ending list shortens, not because the tasks vanish, but because the road insists on proportion: you are small, and still held.

    By midday, the light changes its mind. Shadows shorten, and the heat decides what kind of day it wants to be. 

    I pull off onto a frontage road that minors in regret and majors in perspective. The surface is rough enough to earn respect. A low ridge rises, and I climb it on foot because the day asks and because sometimes the answer is yes, even when you don’t know the question. Up top, the wind has a cathedral voice. The land arranges itself into a map you can read with your tongue—dust, sun, iron, a little mercy. I don’t take a picture. I don’t say a word. I let the horizon do what it does best: decide nothing for me and change everything anyway.

    Back in the car, I don’t check the time. Time is a city tool. Out here, we measure by light—how it sharpens, how it softens, how it lifts off the hood like a thin leafing. I aim the nose toward home, not because I’m finished, but because finishing is not the point. The road has said what it needed to say: that listening is work, that attention is a sacrament, that the world is not waiting to be narrated so much as witnessed with a bit of respect.

    Near the interstate, the old instincts return. The exits appear like promises or temptations. The hand that tried to steer me back this morning is quieter now. It didn’t vanish; it lost its authority. I put the playlist away and let the tires do the singing. The lines pull me forward, not faster, just truer.

    I don’t come back with revelations big enough for billboards. I come back with small instructions written in dust: drink water; call your people; cook something simple; write a sentence that owes nothing to applause. The engine cools. The day lowers its shoulders. I sit a moment before going in, the car clicking as it forgets its heat.

    Maybe the road isn’t a way out so much as a way through. Maybe its gift is not destination but calibration—the chance to tune your own noise until you can hear the hum beneath everything, the one that was there before playlists and plans, the one that sounds like wind across open ground.

    Maybe the point was never to arrive.

    Maybe it was to finally listen.

    Kyle J. Hayes

    kylehayesblog.com

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  • The Roads of NewMexico

    The Roads of NewMexico

    I do not go out as much as I should. I have learned to live with the quiet corners of my home, to accept the stillness as both refuge and weight. The city’s hum, with its restless people and anonymous noise, is sometimes too much—like standing in a crowded room where the air feels claimed before I can breathe it in. Out there, in the public world, I sometimes feel like I am trespassing on a story that was not written with me in mind.

    And yet, some roads call to me.

    I am from farm country, where the land stretches wide enough to hold every thought you’ve been avoiding. Out here, beauty is not a spectacle but a constant, a birthright of the horizon. The sky spills itself in all directions, unapologetic, while fields—golden in some seasons, green in others—move gently under the wind’s persuasion. You learn, if you grow up here, that beauty is not always something you chase. Sometimes it is something you stand still for.

    But when the itch for movement comes, when the air in my lungs feels stale from sameness, I take to the road, not for the chatter of tourist shops or the curated charm of main streets, but for the wide‑open arteries that connect this land’s beating heart.

    Once, the road took me to Santa Fe. The church stood there in quiet defiance of time, its walls holding centuries the way the land holds roots. I didn’t linger. I didn’t wander through galleries or sip coffee in some sunlit corner café. I came for the church, and once I had seen it—once I had my proof in the form of photographs—I left. It wasn’t a snub to the city. It was more like an instinct: I had come for one truth, and once it was in my hands, I needed the road again.

    The next pull was Taos, where I saw the earthship homes—structures like prayers whispered into clay. They are born of the land and return to it, designed for self‑sufficiency, for a way of living that doesn’t ask the earth for more than it can give. I toured them, let my hands trace the walls, and wondered how many of us truly know how to live with the earth instead of on it.

    On my way back, I stopped at the gorge. They call it breathtaking, but “breath‑stealing” is closer to the truth. One moment you are on solid ground, and the next the earth has opened its jaws before you, deep and indifferent. I felt my stomach fall, my body pull back. It was too much—too wide, too high, too close to the idea that we are small and fragile. That was the end of my trip. I let the road fold back into itself and carry me home.

    There are other routes in New Mexico, I’m told. Places where the land tells its own version of scripture—mountains that seem older than time, desert plains that remember the tread of people who came long before us. I want to see them. Not for the itinerary or the postcard moment, but for the quiet it might stir in me. For the way the road, with all its curves and stretches, might teach me something about moving forward even when the destination is unclear.

    The truth is, I am not searching for new places as much as I am searching for new ways to inhabit myself. Each mile is less about escape than about arrival—the slow unfolding of who I am when I am far from the rooms that have learned my silence too well.

    So if you know the roads in New Mexico—roads that are not just scenic but soulful, roads where the wind speaks and the earth listens—I am listening too. Because the journey is never just the land you cross. It is the terrain you carry inside you, waiting to be mapped.

    By Kyle J. Hayes

    kylehayesblog.com

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