The older I get, the more I say it.
“When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.”
It is not just a quote. It is a warning, a wisdom, a truth that only deepens with time. And the woman who spoke it, Maya Angelou, was more than a poet, more than an icon—she was a force. A woman who understood the world not just as it was, but as it could be.
Since it’s Women’s History Month, I could think of no one better to celebrate.
Maya Angelou did not just write about life—she lived it. She survived it. She bore witness to its struggles, joys, and unbearable weight, and she did it all with a voice that refused to be silenced. She wrote with clarity that stripped the world down to its barest truth. And if you were listening—really listening—she was telling you exactly what you needed to hear.
“When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.”
How many times have we ignored that truth? How often have we made excuses for people, choosing to see them as we hope they are instead of who they have proven themselves to be? How much pain have we invited into our lives because we refused to accept what was right in front of us?
But Maya Angelou knew.
She knew that wisdom was not just in books but in lived experience. That some lessons had to be felt before they could be learned. She also knew that to survive in this world—to thrive in it—you had to recognize the truth in people, in systems, in history itself.
She knew women, in particular, have been told to be patient, to give the benefit of the doubt, to soften themselves to make others more comfortable. But also that survival requires something stronger. It requires discernment. It requires the ability to see the truth and to act on it.
Which is why we celebrate her.
Not just for her words, but for the life behind them. For the way she carried herself, the way she refused to be broken, the way she taught an entire generation—generations after her—what it means to walk in your own truth, unapologetically.
So this month, as we celebrate the women who have shaped history, let us also remember the wisdom they left behind. Let us remember Maya’s lesson. Let us see people for who they are—not for who we wish they were.
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