Author: Kyle Hayes

  • A Reflection on the Loss of a Pioneer

    A Reflection on the Loss of a Pioneer

    Today, Sly Stone passed away. And the world doesn’t sound the same.

    They’ll write the obituaries. They’ll tell you about the hits—Everyday PeopleThank You (Falettinme Be Mice Elf Agin) If You Want Me to Stay—and they’ll remind you that Sly and the Family Stone broke barriers: Black and white, male and female, gospel and funk, radical and joyful. But the truth is, you can’t really write Sly down. You have to feel him. You have to let the bassline wrap around your ribs, and the distortion melts into the marrow of your spine. You have to live inside the chaos of his sound to understand what he meant.

    Because Sly didn’t just make music. He reshaped it. He cracked it open and poured revolution into it.

    Before Prince danced across purple stages in high-heeled boots, before he blurred gender and genius in a swirl of falsetto and fire, there was Sly—funk’s wild architect. The Black man with a perm and a prophet’s pen, who wrote soul anthems that doubled as sermons, who saw the future and tried to drag the rest of us toward it, even as it tore at him. Prince stood on the edge of the genre. Sly obliterated it. Rock, soul, funk, psychedelia—he didn’t choose. He claimed them all.

    But unlike Prince, Sly never won the war for his music.

    While Prince famously scribbled “slave” on his cheek and fought Warner Bros. in the spotlight, Sly’s battle was quieter and crueler. He lost ownership of his music early and, with it, a piece of himself. The industry chewed him up like it’s done to so many brilliant Black creators—those who saw something holy in rhythm and melody, only to be left with shadows and unpaid royalties.

    And then there were the drugs.

    Sly fought them like a man wading through water that got deeper with every step. Cocaine, PCP, the ghosts of genius, and pressure and pain. His band fell apart. His voice changed. The clarity in his music faded. And yet… even in the haze, there were sparks. Small TalkHigh on YouI heard, ‘Ya Missed Me; Well, I’m Back.‘ But the world had already started turning its head, already writing him off. And that is the tragedy. Because Sly Stone never stopped being brilliant—he just stopped being what the world wanted brilliance to look like.

    We’ve lost so many of our giants this way.

    Lost them not just in death but in the way they were discarded while alive. Donny, Curtis, Rick, Whitney, MJ, Aretha, and now Sly. Black music—our music, foundational Black American music—has always been the soul of this nation. And yet, it’s often treated like a trend: celebrated, consumed, and forgotten. Those artists built the walls of American sound. Brick by brick. Note by note. And now, those walls feel emptier.

    So I ask: Who carries the torch now?

    Who sings not just with talent but with conviction? Who dares to blend funk and message, to stand against the industry instead of smiling for the cover photo? Who speaks truth to power in rhythm and melody and lets their voice sound imperfecturgentand human?

    I’m not sure if the next Sly is out there. Maybe we should stop looking for replacements and start remembering the ones we lost—fully. Honestly. Mess and all.

    Sly Stone was more than a funk legend. He was a sound—a movement trapped in vinyl, a spirit screaming through wah-wah pedals and gospel-soaked harmonies. He was the bridge between chaos and groove, between revolution and radio. And today, that bridge is gone.

    Rest in Peace, Brother Sly.

    You never needed permission to change the world.

    You just did it.

    By Kyle J. Hayes

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  • Our Music: The Beginning and the End

    Our Music: The Beginning and the End

    A Meditation on Soul, Sound, and the Ghosts That Sing Through Us

    When I was a boy, like most Black children raised in America, I laughed when Africa was mentioned. Not because it was funny but because we had been taught to laugh. Conditioned to see our origin not as a source of pride but as a place of backwardness. What the media didn’t mock outright, it rendered invisible. So, we were left to fill the void with jokes, half-truths, and cartoon images of loincloths and drums. The continent became abstract. It became distant. It became everything but ours.

    But as I grew, so did my questions. And the laughter gave way to a different kind of sound—the sound of knowing.

    We began to ask: When did our music begin? Where did it come from? What did we create in the spaces where even language had been stolen? The answers don’t live in textbooks or museum plaques. They live in the air. They live in the hum of our grandmother’s voice as she cleans. In the moan of a man dragging his feet after twelve hours on the line. In the drumless beat that lived in our throats when all else had been taken.

    Our music began in the fields. Not in studios. Not in arenas. Not even in churches. It started under the weight of cotton, under the eye of the overseer, under the crack of the lash.

    It began as moaning—deep, wordless, and primal. It was the closest thing to prayer many of us could manage. Because to pray, you need hope. And for the enslaved, hope was dangerous. So, instead, we sang.

    We sang to stay sane. We sang to stay human. We sang to stay alive.

    From those field hollers came the roots of something uniquely ours. The Blues.

    They called it the devil’s music. But what they didn’t say is that the devil they feared was the truth. Because the Blues told it. The Blues didn’t pretend. It didn’t cause pain. It set it to a twelve-bar pattern and let it breathe. It made grief rhythmic. It gave loneliness structure. It turned absence into presence.

    This was not Europe’s music. This was not borrowed. This was born. Born from people who had no instruments, so they became them. Born from people who had no nation, so they made one out of sound. Born from people who had every reason to be silent and still found a way to sing.

    We called it the Blues, but it was more than that. It was a ledger of loss. It was oral scripture. It was our way of remembering in a country that told us to forget.

    From the Blues came Soul.

    Not a genre. A declaration.

    You have to understand that Soul wasn’t invented. It was revealed. It was the sound of field songs baptized in Gospel that fed on the Blues and was set loose in cities that never fully welcomed us.

    You can hear it in Sam Cooke’s croon, in Aretha’s roar, in Curtis Mayfield’s quiet thunder. Soul was not about being smooth or marketable. It was about being seen letting the full, ungovernable weight of our joy and heartbreak crash through speakers that once filtered our pain.

    And even then—even at its height—they tried to soften it. To sand down its edges. To make it palatable. Because America has always loved Black music more than it has loved Black people.

    And so came the theft.

    They stole our sound, dressed it in pale skin, and sold it back to us. They took our rawness and gave it polish. Took our sorrow and gave it a spin. They called it rock ‘n’ roll. They called it pop. They called it American.

    They rarely called it Black.

    Our music was repackaged, rerouted, and rendered safe for suburban ears. The Gospel in it muted. The struggle was silenced. What had been born in the crucible of bondage became elevator music. What once carried the weight of chains became background noise for shopping malls.

    And we are supposed to be grateful for the exposure.

    And now, there is another kind of theft creeping in—a quieter one but no less insidious.

    There is a growing chorus of voices from the continent claiming that the musical expressions born in the cotton fields, juke joints, and The Black churches of the American South were not the creations of Foundational Black Americans but rather extensions of African traditions. They say we borrowed our harmonies, our rhythms, our Soul from ancestral roots. And while it is true that rhythm and spiritual depth traveled with us across the Atlantic, what was built here—in the ashes of slavery, in the belly of Jim Crow, in the shadow of redlining—was ours.

    Our music did not evolve in the warm circle of communal drum fires but in the cold silence of forced labor. It did not grow in celebratory dance but in whispered prayer. It was not handed down intact. It was reconstructed from what could be remembered, imagined, and reshaped under duress.

    To say that the Blues is African is to ignore that it was birthed in chains. To say that Soul came from African rhythms is to forget that those rhythms were not allowed to survive intact here.

    The Blues, jazz, Gospel, Soul, hip-hop—these are not direct imports. They are American creations born from the suffering, resilience, and genius of Black Americans. They are ours.

    And now, Hollywood has found a way to tell it back to us. The movie Sinners speaks of the Blues. It drapes the sound in story, in mystery, in the supernatural. It shows the music as a kind of bridge—between generations, between pain and healing, between this life and the next.

    It is not perfect. But it touches something real.

    Because we know—and have always known—that our music is spiritual. Not just in the religious sense. Spiritual as in sacred. Spiritual as in bound to something greater than survival.

    Our music remembers. It remembers those who never had names. It remembers those who disappeared. It remembers what textbooks omitted, what whitewashed museums refuse to say.

    The Blues isn’t just music. It’s mourning. Soul isn’t just rhythm. It’s reclamation.

    There is no true beginning to our music. Because we didn’t arrive here in silence.

    We brought rhythm in our footsteps. We brought the song in our mouths. And when they tried to beat it out of us, we built it back louder.

    And there is no end. Because we are still singing. Still sampling. Still remixing memory.

    You can hear it in Kendrick Lamar’s fury. In D’Angelo’s whispers. In the rasp of Brittany Howard. In every young artist who refuses to let the culture be flattened.

    We don’t need monuments. We have melody.

    We don’t need permission. We have a voice.

    And when we are gone, the music will still be here. Singing the names of those who were never called. Humming the history no one else wanted to write. Telling the truth in a language that can’t be stolen.

    We did not bring instruments. We became them. And we will not go quietly.

    By Kyle J. Hayes

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  • Where Are the Heroes?

    Where Are the Heroes?

    A Meditation on What We’ve Lost

    I don’t know when it started. Maybe it was gradual and subtle, like a dimming light you don’t notice until the room is too dark to read by. But one day, I looked around at the screens that raised our children and couldn’t find the heroes.

    I began to notice it with The Boys. It is a show about heroes—but not really. It is a world where the ones with power are most corrupted by it. Where valor is theater, morality is performance, and saviors are mostly just men in costume pretending not to be monsters.

    Then came Spider-Man: No Way Home. A young man with a heart too big for his world, Peter Parker chooses to save even the villains and believes in redemption when the world screams for retribution. In doing so, he loses everything: his aunt, friends, and identity.

    He chooses to be good—and the price is silence, exile, and anonymity.

    Then there’s Invincible, which doesn’t even pretend to be kind. A coming-of-age wrapped in trauma and blood. Where the father figure is a god-turned-murderer, and the son is taught that the universe does not care about kindness. Where hope feels like a joke told too late at a funeral.

    They tell us these shows are for adults like Family GuyFuturamaand The Simpsons. But they don’t say this: these shows raise children too. And in their worlds, good is outdated. Noble is naive. Heroism is a mask we wear until it no longer serves us.

    When I was young, our heroes were loud. They didn’t ask for nuance. They exploded onto the screen with muscles and missions: Rambo, Chuck Norris, Axel Foley, John McClane. They weren’t perfect, but they were good.

    They stood for something.

    Even in their flaws, they modeled something to reach for. Courage. Loyalty. Sacrifice.

    The soldiers we looked up to weren’t broken men with body counts and vendettas. The cops weren’t corrupt antiheroes buried in procedural nihilism. They were flawed, certainly, but they fought for what was right. And they usually won.

    Now we give our children John Wick—a grieving assassin. Mr. Nobody—a retired government killer with nothing to lose. Deadpool—a mercenary with jokes sharper than his morals.

    They are cool. They are dangerous. But they are not heroes.

    Maybe that’s the lesson. Being a hero doesn’t guarantee success. That goodness is impractical. That mercy gets you killed.

    Evil lived in Sinners (and yes, it was beautiful in its own right). The vampires survived. The message buried beneath symbolism and song is that light doesn’t always win.

    And maybe that’s true. But what do we do with truth when it wounds the spirit?

    What happens to a child raised on stories where every savior falls? What happens to a generation who watches the world through screens that whisper: no one is coming to help you. Everyone is broken. Do what you must.

    I know someone will say, “Heroes still exist. Look to real life.” And yes, there are firefighters, soldiers, teachers, nurses, and parents. But these heroes are buried beneath algorithms, drowned in the noise. Their stories don’t stream on prime time, and their morals aren’t trending.

    And while they live, they are rarely seen.

    But the most painful betrayal comes not from stories in which heroes fall but from stories in which heroes are rewritten.

    Marvel took perhaps the greatest heroic sacrifice in modern cinema—the death of Tony Stark, Iron Man, in Avengers: Endgame. A moment that defined selflessness, courage, and the idea that doing the right thing often costs everything.

    And now, they are planning to bring him back—Robert Downey Jr.—not as Iron Man, not as the man who saved the universe, but as Doctor Doom.

    From savior to villain. From selfless to sinister.

    They will say it’s storytelling. They will say it’s a multiverse. They will say it’s fiction.

    But they are really erasing memory, replacing the legacy of heroism with the ambiguity of moral inversion. In doing so, they are telling a new story to a generation already unsure of what good looks like.

    What hope do we have if Iron Man can be undone and his sacrifice rewritten?

    So, I write this not just as a lament but as a question:

    What does it mean to raise children in a world with no heroes?

    What do we ask of the imagination when every tale ends in blood? What do we feed the soul when victory is reserved only for those who betray the light?

    Because I still believe in the power of a story. I still believe in the need for something to reach for.

    I fear we are telling our sons and daughters that goodness is outdated, honor is inconvenient, and heroism is a lie the world no longer has room for.

    And if that is the case, then we have failed.

    Not just to inspire. But to believe.

    By Kyle J. Hayes

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  • U2’s The Joshua Tree: When Pop Music Reached for Something Higher

    U2’s The Joshua Tree: When Pop Music Reached for Something Higher

    It’s not supposed to feel this deep. It’s pop. It’s not supposed to carry this much weight, not supposed to stir this much longing. Pop is supposed to be light. Easy. Disposable. Something you hum along to in the car, something that moves through you without leaving a mark.

    No one told U2 that.

    Or maybe they knew, and they simply refused to obey the rules.

    Because The Joshua Tree isn’t just pop. It’s a landscape. It’s atmosphere. It is wide-open spaces and desert highways, rolling thunder, and quiet reckoning. It does what great music is supposed to do—it makes you feel and think, and it does both before you even realize it’s happening.

    And maybe that’s why this pop album hits harder than it has any right to.

    Something is aching in Where the Streets Have No Name. In the way, Bono sings like he’s searching for something just out of reach, something desperate in how the guitars shimmer and build.

    Then comes I Still Haven’t Found What I’m Looking For.

    Suddenly, the album no longer feels like pop.

    This is something else—something rooted in tradition, something older than the rock itself. This is gospel. The way the chords rise, and the choir sweeps in behind Bono’s voice is unmistakable. And not gospel in the sense of imitation, but gospel in spirit. This is the sound of yearning, the sound of faith wrapped in doubt, the sound of a man lifting his hands toward heaven even as his feet stay planted firmly on the ground.

    And that’s the brilliance of The Joshua Tree.

    Because it reflects the ’80s—the tension, the longing, the searching—it reflects America through outsiders’ eyes, seeing its promise and brokenness. It demonstrates the feelings people don’t always talk about—the spiritual exhaustion, the weight of time, the quiet, relentless ache of wanting more but not knowing exactly what more is.

    And that’s what makes The Joshua Tree great.

    Because it is pop, yes. But it’s also something more profound. Something truer.

    Something that reaches.

    And thank God nobody told them otherwise.

    By Kyle J. Hayes

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  • So It’s Me and Cake Again

    So It’s Me and Cake Again

    A Reflection on Pound Cake, Memory, and Soul

    There’s something quiet and personal about returning to a kitchen after a small failure. You remember the last time—how it crumbled, how you forgot the parchment, how it fell apart before it ever came together. But you also remember the taste, the intention, and the lesson. That’s where this began.

    So it’s me and cake again. But this time, I kept it simple: a pound cake, humble in name but rich in history. I didn’t chase complexity—I honored instinct. I moved with the memory of what went wrong last time and the hope that this time, it might go right. It’s not perfect. It’s just real.

    I made adjustments, measured the flour carefully, lined the pans, and whispered thanks to the ancestors. I didn’t use anything fancy—just what I had. And that, I imagine, is exactly how it began generations ago. Our people didn’t bake from abundance; they baked from necessity, love, and spirit—from what was on hand. And somehow, what they made was enough—sometimes more than enough.

    This time, I tasted the batter and had to pause. It was everything: smooth, sweet, gently spiced with nutmeg and cinnamon, lifted with a little lemon. It was the kind of batter that made you wonder why we even bother baking it at all. I almost didn’t—almost just sat at the counter with a spoon and a smile.

    But I finished it. I poured it into the pan, slid it into the oven, and let the scent remind me who I am.

    When it came out—cracked top, deep golden edges—I knew I’d done something right, not just in the measurements, but in the meaning. I had baked something that nodded back to the past while standing firm in the present. I made a cake with my hands, memory, and heart.

    It wasn’t about impressing anyone. It was about honoring where I come from—a kitchen without frills, a recipe born of survival, a dessert passed down not through written cards but through repetition, rhythm, and watching someone you love beat butter and sugar until it sang.

    That’s what soul food really is. It’s not the trending dishes on Instagram. It’s the small, sacred rituals in quiet kitchens. It’s using what you have and turning it into something worthy of memory. It’s the story inside the bite.

    So yes—it’s me and cake again. And this time, I came correct. Not because I had to prove anything but because I remembered what matters: presence, patience, and the power of making something from nothing.

    This cake?

    It’s more than dessert.

    It’s inheritance.

    It’s healing.

    It’s home.

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  • A Place to Sit Still: Birthday Reflections, Burgers, and Becoming Social Again

    A Place to Sit Still: Birthday Reflections, Burgers, and Becoming Social Again

    Last night, I went out.

    Not on the day of, my birthday had come and gone, as I’d hoped it would, quiet and unbothered.

    But I’ve learned that the people in my life now don’t take kindly to silence.

    They don’t take “I’m okay” at face value.

    They don’t let me disappear the way I used to.

    So, a few days later, they pulled me out—not with pressure, but with presence.

    Another group of close friends who’ve decided they’re going to keep me in the light,

    even when I’ve learned to find safety in the shade.

    It wasn’t a big thing.

    It never has to be.

    Just a dinner.

    An excuse to wear something better than the soft armor of sweats and a hoodie.

    A reason to put on real pants, brush off the nice watch, and step into the world looking like someone ready to be seen,

    even if he isn’t.

    We went to BJ’s Brewhouse.

    Not my spot—but close enough.

    A place I’ve been to before, one of the few I feel okay in.

    Large, yes. Public, yes.

    But somehow, it doesn’t feel like a spotlight.

    It feels like a corner where you can sit, breathe, eat, and maybe even laugh a little.

    One of the things I’ve always noticed—and quietly appreciated—is how BJ’s handles space.

    Most places cater to the groups.

    The couples.

    The table-for-fours and “Is anyone else joining you?” assumptions.

    But BJ’s?

    They’ve got single tables.

    Not shoved at the bar.

    Not wedged between a high chair and the kitchen swing doors.

    Actual tables—small, functional, intentional.

    They don’t ask why you’re alone.

    They just let you be.

    I can’t explain how rare that is.

    Because when you’re out alone, you don’t just carry solitude.

    You carry other people’s stares.

    The suspicion. The pity. The questions.

    BJ’s doesn’t give you any of that.

    They just give you a seat.

    And sometimes, that’s all a person really needs.

    The staff?

    Cheerful, engaging—yes.

    But never intrusive.

    The kind of servers who know when to smile and when to simply refill your water without breaking the spell of conversation.

    That matters more than people know.

    In Albuquerque, we have breweries like some places have churches—on every corner, every flavor, and every crowd.

    But BJ’s holds its own.

    I don’t drink much.

    Just a light beer to prime the taste buds,

    to keep the appetite sharp, not spoiled.

    Something to mark the occasion without blurring it.

    I ordered the jalapeño burger.

    Spice sharp enough to remind me I’m still alive.

    Messy enough to keep things grounded.

    A good burger doesn’t pretend.

    It tells the truth.

    And this one did.

    After that came the brownie.

    Chocolate. Dense. Almost obscene in its richness.

    One of those desserts that makes you pause halfway through—not because you’re full,

    but because you need a moment to respect it.

    It was indulgent.

    And it was perfect.

    We ate. We talked.

    I laughed more than I expected to.

    And in the low hum of that restaurant, surrounded by people who insisted I still belonged to the world,

    I felt something I hadn’t felt in a while:

    Comfort.

    Not the kind you fake for other people.

    The real kind.

    The kind that says you don’t have to perform here.

    My old spot closed a while ago.

    The place I used to go when I wanted to be alone but not lonely.

    The place where the servers knew me, and I knew the menu by heart.

    When that door shut for good, I stopped going out.

    But maybe—just maybe-I ‘ve found a new one.

    Not because it’s perfect.

    But it makes space for people like me.

    People who don’t always feel right in crowds.

    People who sometimes need a small table and a quiet corner to feel human again.

    It’s not just about the food.

    It never was.

    It’s about finding a place in the world where you can exist as you are—

    birthday or not.

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  • Anywhere but Nowhere: On Driving While Black in the Land of the Free

    Anywhere but Nowhere: On Driving While Black in the Land of the Free

    I own a nice vehicle.

    The kind that hugs the road like a whisper and hums like it knows where it’s going.

    It’s the kind of SUV that should be free.

    Built for long stretches of empty highway and distant horizons.

    But it sits mostly still.

    It idles in the garage.

    It moves through town and back,

    But not out there.

    Not far.

    Because while it can take me anywhere, I go nowhere,

    the country will not let me forget who I am while driving.

    I used to move without worry.

    Back when I was younger, maybe more foolish, perhaps just more free.

    Back when I’d take off cross-country with nothing but a map, a CD wallet, and a crooked smile.

    I didn’t think twice about what county I was in, or whose land I was rolling through.

    But age teaches you what experience doesn’t let you forget.

    It teaches you that being a Black man in a nice car is still a flag.

    Still a reason to be stopped.

    Still a reason to be questioned.

    Still a reason to be followed, harassed, or worse—disappeared.

    I’ve had the thoughts.

    You know the ones.

    What happens if I stop in the wrong place?

    What if I need gas in the wrong town?

    What if I pull over in the wrong stretch of highway with no shoulder or witnesses?

    What if I encounter a police officer who feels like proving a point?

    What if they plant something?

    What if I reach too fast?

    What if I say too little or too much?

    What if I’m told to get out of the car and don’t make it to the next sentence?

    These aren’t dramatic hypotheticals.

    These are possibilities.

    Probabilities, even.

    Because Black freedom in America has always come with asterisks.

    Because a license and registration don’t mean much when fear enters the room.

    Because we still live in a country where a Black man in a nice car is a contradiction that law enforcement wants to solve.

    And this fear isn’t new.

    It’s passed down.

    Inherited like a scar.

    In another era, we had something called the Negro Motorist Green Book.

    A quiet lifeline printed on pulp and ink.

    A book of safe places—if any such place ever existed.

    Gas stations where you wouldn’t be chased off with a shotgun.

    Hotels where you could sleep without looking over your shoulder.

    Restaurants where you’d be served a plate and not a stare.

    It was more than a travel guide.

    It was a Black atlas for survival.

    And now I find myself decades later, carrying the same questions in my gut.

    Wondering how far I can go before someone decides I’ve gone too far.

    Sometimes I wonder if it’s paranoia.

    If I’m being unreasonable.

    If I’ve let the headlines and hashtags shape my fear.

    But then I remember names.

    Not just George or Philando or Sandra.

    But names that never made the news.

    Names whispered in family kitchens.

    Stories told with sighs.

    Cousins who had “bad encounters.”

    Uncles who came home changed.

    It’s not paranoia if it keeps happening.

    It’s not irrational if the system was built this way.

    So I fly.

    I fly because in the sky, I have less chance of becoming another roadside ghost.

    I fly because TSA might be annoying but rarely ends in blood.

    I fly because the badge at the gate doesn’t come with a gun and a grudge.

    Still, the road calls me.

    Still, there’s something sacred about the open highway.

    Something spiritual about Black movement—unfettered, unapologetic, unbothered.

    That may be why I downloaded a new app today.

    A modern Green Book.

    A map of safe stops, safe places, safe Black-owned spaces.

    It may be enough.

    Maybe not.

    But I want to believe again.

    I want to believe that freedom can exist beyond my driveway.

    Because a car that can go anywhere

    deserves a country where that promise is true.

    And so do I.

    By Kyle Hayes

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  • The Echo I Didn’t Expect: Kendrick, Taylor, and the Sound Between the Lines

    The Echo I Didn’t Expect: Kendrick, Taylor, and the Sound Between the Lines

    First, let me say this plainly: I am a Kendrick Lamar fan.

    Not the surface kind.

    Not the playlist kind.

    The kind who listens to the whole album, in order,

    Who waits for the videos.

    Who digs through lyrics like scripture, pausing, rewinding, sitting with bars like they were written for my memory alone.

    His music has never been just music to me.

    It’s been diagnosis.

    It’s been a protest.

    It’s been a mirror, cracked and shaking, but still reflecting something I needed to see.

    So when the Great Rap War of 2024 came like thunder,

    I stayed close.

    Not just for the spectacle, but for the weight.

    Because when Kendrick Lamar enters a war of words, it’s never just a diss.

    It’s a dissection.

    One night, long after the storm passed and the silence settled, I chased ghosts on YouTube.

    The way one does when sleep won’t come, and the truth is still humming in the walls.

    And there I stumbled across something unexpected:

    A page by Anthony Aiken Jr. (youtube.com/@AnthonyAikenJr).

    What he offered wasn’t commentary—it was archaeology.

    He unearthed not just Kendrick’s lyrics but their architecture, the cultural echoes, and one thing I never saw coming:

    Taylor Swift.

    Let me confess: I had never made that connection.

    In my world, Taylor Swift lived somewhere else.

    Somewhere, polished, pink, and distant from the cracked pavement where Kendrick built his kingdom.

    But Aiken pulled threads I hadn’t noticed.

    Lebron. Kendrick. Taylor.

    At first, it felt strange.

    Then it started to feel inevitable.

    So I did what I always do when I’m unsure,

    I listened.

    I started with a song Aiken mentioned: “Lavender Haze.”

    And I’ll be honest, I did not expect what I heard.

    What I expected was gloss.

    What I got was atmosphere.

    What I expected was pop.

    What I got was texture.

    Buried in the haze was a name I recognized, Sounwave.

    The sonic architect behind so much of Kendrick’s world.

    And there, floating above the fog of synth and softness, was Sam Dew,

    his voice cutting through like a whisper you didn’t know you needed until it arrived.

    In that moment, Taylor Swift wasn’t just Taylor Swift.

    She was something else.

    She was connected.

    It’s easy to draw lines between artists when the culture insists on fences.

    When the industry tells us who belongs to which genre, who speaks for what struggle, and who owns which sound.

    But music doesn’t obey boundaries.

    It bleeds.

    And if Kendrick taught me anything, it’s to listen deeper.

    Not just for bars.

    But for buried intention.

    So I kept listening.

    And I will keep listening.

    Not because I’m suddenly a Swiftie,

    but because I now know she is a lyricist.

    And if I missed this, what else have I missed?

    There’s a lesson in all this: something about staying open,

    about not letting genre, fame, or image keep you from recognizing truth when it sings.

    Because somewhere between Mr. Morale and Midnights,

    between “Not Like Us” and “Lavender Haze,”

    It is a space I didn’t know I needed,

    a space where craft speaks louder than category.

    So I’ll start again.

    Just like I do with every Kendrick album.

    Because meaning isn’t always found on the first listen.

    Sometimes it waits for you in the haze.

    By Kyle J. Hayes

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  • Can’t Slow Down: Lionel Richie and the Memory That Belongs to Me

    Can’t Slow Down: Lionel Richie and the Memory That Belongs to Me

    I did, in fact, listen to Can’t Slow Down again.

    But the truth is, I didn’t need to.

    The moment the first notes played, it was less about sound and more about memory.

    Because there are albums that remind you of a time,

    and then there are albums that are the time.

    This one didn’t gently carry me back.

    It yanked me past the clock, past the calendar, into that unmistakable, synth-saturated moment called the mid-80s, when emotion was worn loud and love songs had teeth.

    There’s a song on this album called “Hello.”

    And yes, Adele has a version by that name.

    A beautiful one. A powerful one.

    But this one is mine.

    And if I show you an image and say it comes from the video  “Hello”, and you say that’s not in Adele’s video?

    I will question our friendship.

    Because there are things rooted so deeply in your coming-of-age soundtrack that they become more than a preference—they become part of your cultural fingerprint.

    And this album, “Can’t Slow Down,” is precisely that.

    Yes, the songs were hits.

    Big ones.

    Songs you couldn’t escape on the radio or cassette decks.

    Songs that filled up living rooms during cleaning day, family road trips, school dances, and Sunday evenings when the sunlight started slipping through the curtains just right.

    But they were more than that.

    They were messages.

    Love letters.

    Reassurances and pleas.

    They were melodies that believed in emotion without apology.

    This was the era before irony became cool, when men could sing about heartbreak without covering it up with jokes or detachment.

    Lionel Richie didn’t sing to impress you—he sang like he needed you to understand.

    What I remembered when I hit play wasn’t just the lyrics or the beat.

    It was the emotional tone.

    The warmth.

    The earnestness.

    The cinematic drama that lives in songs like “Penny Lover” and “Stuck on You.”

    The way “All Night Long” somehow made up an African-sounding chant with such conviction, we all just went with it, laughing, dancing, never stopping to question the lyrics because the rhythm was the language.

    It was the soundtrack to a specific kind of Black joy—joy that knew pain but didn’t center it.

    Joy that was layered. Smooth.

    Polished but deeply human.

    Listening now, I understand why this album is among the 100 greatest albums of all time.

    Not just because of the production.

    Not just because of the hits.

    But because it meant something.

    And it still does.

    This album lives in the part of my memory that refuses to fade—where music and memory blur, where emotions return in stereo.

    It’s the kind of album that made the world stop for a second so you could feel.

    And that’s rare.

    That’s sacred.

    So no, I didn’t need to listen to it again.

    But I’m glad I did.

    Because some records don’t just belong in music history.

    They belong to us.

    To who we were.

    To who we needed to be at the time.

    And that makes them timeless.

    By Kyle J. Hayes

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  • I’m Learning

    I’m Learning

    As I’ve said before—and as most of my close friends know—I’m just now beginning to like my birthday.

    That might sound small. But to me, it’s seismic.

    You spend enough years pretending your day of birth is just another day, and eventually, you believe it.

    You teach yourself not to expect anything; over time, even the presence of joy feels like an intrusion.

    A noise in a quiet room you worked hard to make still.

    But now, because of the stubborn kindness of those around me, it’s changing.

    Slowly.

    Quietly.

    Almost against my will.

    They’ve made my birthday a project.

    Not a celebration, but a mission.

    To make me smile. 

    And I won’t lie—something about that type of caring, unsolicited but insistent, humbles me.

    Still, no amount of cake or candles wipes away the long memory of absence.

    There’s still the question of what was missing.

    And maybe worse, those who never cared enough to say they were wrong.

    A friend told me something today that I can’t get out of my head.

    She said, “Sometimes we don’t get an apology. That’s just reality. That’s why we have faith. God said, ‘Vengeance is mine.’ He will make it right.”

    I nodded.

    But the part of me that’s been carrying silence for decades didn’t just nod.

    It stirred.

    Because she’s right.

    We don’t always get the apology.

    We don’t always get the closure.

    Some of us are walking around with unfinished stories tattooed on our backs.

    We carry them into every conversation, every argument, every strained holiday dinner, hoping—just once—someone might say, “I’m sorry.”

    But they don’t.

    And the truth is…

    Maybe they never will.

    So I’ve been praying.

    I pray for guidance.

    Not for patience—not anymore.

    I used to pray for patience until I realized  God has a sense of humor.

    A disturbing one.

    Because when you ask for patience, God doesn’t hand you peace.

    He hands you people.

    Situations.

    Moments designed to strip you raw.

    I asked for patience and was placed in a line behind an elderly woman who was handwriting a check and logging it in her journal.

    I asked for patience and got coworkers who don’t do their treatments or charting.

    I asked for patience, and God reminded me I still have so far to go.

    So now I pray for guidance.

    Because I know right from wrong.

    But I don’t always know how to move through it.

    Because doing the right thing doesn’t come with applause.

    It comes with silence. With resistance.

    Biting your tongue so hard it leaves marks.

    Smiling at people you know would sell you out for less than you’re worth.

    Standing still while someone else gets away with what you could never do.

    So yes—I smile.

    Because I’ve learned that’s easier for other people.

    And on some days, it’s easier for me, too.

    But it’s not just a smile.

    It’s a shield.

    A sermon.

    A small declaration of war.

    Because inside that smile is the tension between “I’m trying” and “Don’t push me.”

    Because even though I’m praying for guidance,

    Even though I believe God fights my battles,

    Even though I believe vengeance isn’t mine to seek,

    I also think that some people walk too close to the edge—

    And that if I weren’t actively praying,

    I’d push them.

    Into traffic.

    Into silence.

    Into the reflection, they keep avoiding.

    So I breathe.

    I pray.

    I eat the cake.

    I take the hugs I never asked for.

    I thank the people who won’t let me hate this day.

    And when someone asks how I’m doing,

    I say, “Fair.”

    Because I am.

    And I thank God for the strength to keep from doing what I want to do.

    Even if He knows exactly how close I get.

    By Kyle J. Hayes

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