Tag: books

  • Are You a Lifelong Learner?

    Are You a Lifelong Learner?

    The answer is yes.

    An easy yes.

    I have been learning my entire life, although I am not entirely sure what the question means by “learning.”

    Does it mean school?

    Books?

    Experience?

    Mistakes?

    Because if mistakes count, I may be one of the most educated people alive.

    As a boy, I loved books.

    I was always reading something. Anything I could get my hands on.

    Most of it was science fiction and fantasy, which meant I knew a great deal about dragons, distant planets, magical weapons, alien civilizations, and saving the universe.

    This knowledge has been surprisingly useless during tax season.

    Still, I was learning.

    Books taught me that there were worlds beyond the one I could see. They introduced me to strange places, impossible creatures, difficult choices, and people who were usually expected to save everyone despite having almost no adult supervision.

    At the time, I did not think of reading as education.

    I thought I was escaping.

    But sometimes escaping into a book is how we return to the world with a better understanding of it.

    Stories taught me about courage.

    Friendship.

    Power.

    Fear.

    Sacrifice.

    They also taught me that accepting mysterious jewelry from strangers is usually a bad idea.

    Then came my teenage years, when much of my education moved from books to horror movies.

    I watched far too many of them.

    Still, they taught me several practical lessons.

    If you are camping and someone suddenly goes missing, leave.

    If you hear strange noises in the woods, leave faster.

    Do not investigate.

    Do not split up.

    Do not say, “I’ll be right back.”

    And under no circumstances should you stop in the nearby town to explain what happened.

    The townspeople already know.

    They have always known.

    They will stare at you silently from the diner while someone behind the counter slowly wipes the same glass.

    Just get in your car and go.

    If the car will not start, then unfortunately, the movie has already decided your future.

    The most important thing I learned, however, was that the more you know, the more you realize how much you do not know.

    This was unfortunate news for me.

    I had a rather inflated opinion of myself when I was younger.

    I was confident.

    Very confident.

    The kind of confident that can only exist when a person has not yet encountered enough information to become confused.

    I thought I knew almost everything.

    Not because I had learned everything, of course.

    I simply had not yet discovered how much everything included.

    Then I kept reading.

    I kept watching.

    I kept listening.

    I kept living.

    And slowly, the world became larger.

    Every answer introduced another question.

    Every subject revealed ten more subjects I had never considered.

    Every person knew something I did not.

    This was humbling.

    Annoying, but humbling.

    I look back at that cocky boy now and laugh.

    Not because he was foolish.

    At least not entirely.

    He was simply standing at the edge of a very large ocean, holding a cup of water, convinced he had discovered the sea.

    There is something beautiful about that kind of confidence.

    There is also something dangerous about it.

    The older I become, the more I understand that learning is not about reaching a place where no one can correct you.

    It is about listening to people whose experiences are different from your own.

    It is changing your mind when new information gives you a good reason to do so.

    That last one can be difficult.

    People become attached to their opinions.

    Sometimes we carry an opinion for so long that it begins to feel like a family member.

    Not necessarily a family member we like.

    But one we feel obligated to defend at gatherings.

    Lifelong learning requires us to let some of those old opinions go.

    It requires curiosity.

    Humility.

    And the willingness to accept that the younger version of ourselves occasionally had no idea what he was talking about.

    I still love books.

    I still love discovering something new.

    I still enjoy the feeling of reading a sentence that makes me stop and reconsider something I thought I understood.

    But I no longer think learning is a journey toward knowing everything.

    That sounds exhausting.

    Learning is simply remaining teachable.

    It is keeping the windows open.

    It is allowing new ideas to enter, while occasionally asking the old ones to gather their things and leave.

    The older I get, the less interested I am in being the smartest person in the room.

    Mostly because the smartest person in the room usually knows enough not to announce it.

    I would rather stay curious.

    I would rather keep reading.

    I would rather keep learning.

    And somewhere inside me, that boy is still holding a science-fiction book, ready to travel to another world.

    The teenager is probably still watching a horror movie and yelling at the screen, “Do not go into the woods.”

    They are both still confident.

    Still curious.

    Still slightly convinced they can save the universe.

    The difference is that now they understand two important things:

    Read the instructions first.

    And if the woods start making strange noises, leave.

    Kyle J. Hayes

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  • What Do You Love Now That You Hated When You Were Younger?

    What Do You Love Now That You Hated When You Were Younger?

    Myself.

    That answer took me a long time to arrive at.

    I would not say I hated myself when I was younger. Hate is too strong a word. But I spent a great deal of my youth wishing I were someone else.

    Even at a young age, I knew I was different.

    Sports were fine, but I was never as good as my older brother. Music was enjoyable, but I could not play an instrument or sing like my other siblings. Everywhere I looked, someone seemed to have a gift that was easier to see than mine.

    My gift was quieter.

    I was smart. I liked books.

    That may not sound like much now, but when you are young, fitting in can feel more important than understanding who you are. I spent years measuring myself against other people and coming up short because I was using the wrong ruler.

    I wanted to be an athlete. The musician. The person everyone noticed when they walked into a room.

    Instead, I was the kid who disappeared into a book.

    What I did not understand then was that the things that made me different were also the things that would shape my life. The hours spent reading taught me how to think. They taught me curiosity. They taught me empathy. They taught me how to sit with an idea long enough to understand it.

    Most importantly, they taught me how to find my own voice.

    Age has a way of settling old arguments. The things we once viewed as flaws often turn out to be foundations.

    Today, I no longer wish I were someone else.

    I am grateful for the quiet kid who loved books. Grateful for the young man who kept reading even when it was not popular. Grateful for the person who eventually learned that fitting in is overrated and that becoming yourself is the greater achievement.

    What do I love now that I disliked when I was younger?

    The answer is simple.

    I love being me.

    Kyle J. Hayes

    kylehayesblog.com

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  • What’s a thing you were completely obsessed with as a kid?

    What’s a thing you were completely obsessed with as a kid?

    Daily writing prompt
    What’s a thing you were completely obsessed with as a kid?

    Books.

    That is the easy answer.

    The truer answer is escape.

    Not escape in the weak sense. Not running away because I could not face the world. More like finding a door where no one else had thought to put one. A door hidden in paper. A door stitched into panels of color and speech bubbles, into capes and impossible cities, into heroes who were wounded but still stood up when the moment demanded it.

    I started with comic books.

    They were bright, loud, impossible things. Men and women dressed like thunder. World’s ending every few pages. Cities held together by courage, guilt, grief, and the stubborn belief that somebody still had to do the right thing, even when doing the right thing cost them something.

    I did not know it then, but I was studying.

    I was learning pacing.

    I was learning myth.

    I was learning how pain could be given shape without being named too plainly.

    Then came fantasy.

    Kingdoms. Forests. Chosen ones. Old magic buried beneath ordinary soil. A sword pulled from silence. A child discovering that the world was larger, stranger, and more dangerous than anyone had warned them. Fantasy taught me that reality was not always the deepest truth. Sometimes a dragon was not just a dragon. Sometimes it was fear. Sometimes it was inheritance. Sometimes it was the thing waiting at the edge of childhood, breathing smoke.

    Then came science fiction.

    Stars. Machines. Strange planets. Futures built from the anxieties of the present. Science fiction taught me that imagination could ask hard questions without raising its voice. What makes us human? What do we owe one another? What happens when progress outruns wisdom? What happens when we build new worlds and carry the same old wounds into them?

    I read anything I could get my hands on.

    Anything.

    There was hunger in it.

    Not the kind that complains. The kind that searches cabinets when no one is looking. The kind that learns to make a meal out of whatever is available. I consumed stories that way. Greedy, grateful, half-starved for elsewhere.

    And sometimes, when the book was right, when the room was quiet enough, when the world had loosened its grip on me for a little while, I stopped reading.

    I was there.

    I could see it.

    The dust on the road. The flicker of torchlight. The broken starship wall humming in the dark. The hero’s hand trembling before the final choice. The old mentor already knowing the cost. The enemy not entirely wrong. The child standing at the edge of becoming, afraid to step forward and more afraid not to.

    That was the magic.

    Not that books showed me other worlds.

    But that they made me feel as if I had survived them.

    Now I do not read as much about the world’s other people as I used to. Not because I love them less. Maybe because some part of me finally understood what all that reading had been preparing me for.

    I was not only visiting.

    I was apprenticing.

    Every comic book, every fantasy kingdom, every distant planet was placing a tool in my hand. Teaching me how to build. Teaching me how to listen. Teaching me that a world is not made only of maps and names and invented histories.

    A world is made of longing.

    A world is made of rules and wounds.

    A world is made of what people fear, what they worship, what they hide, what they carry, and what they are willing to lose.

    These days, I am trying to create my own.

    Not because I have forgotten the ones that raised me.

    Because I remember them.

    Because I owe them.

    Because somewhere there may be another child sitting in a room too hot in summer, too cold in winter, holding a book like it is a secret passage out of the life they have been handed.

    And maybe one day, if I do this right, they will open something I made.

    And for a little while, they will not simply be reading.

    They will be there.

    Kyle J. Hayes

    kylehayesblog.com

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