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  • Write your guide to setting healthy boundaries in relationships.

    Write your guide to setting healthy boundaries in relationships.

    I think the beginning of healthy boundaries is true honesty.

    Not the convenient kind.

    Not the softened version we offer because we are tired, afraid, or trying to keep the room from changing temperature.

    True honesty.

    The kind that requires courage because it does not come only from the mouth. It comes from the part of us that is tired of pretending peace and silence are the same thing.

    As a man, I understand the temptation to say what keeps the peace.

    I have done it.

    Sometimes you tell yourself it is wisdom. Sometimes you call it maturity. Sometimes you say you are picking your battles, and there is truth in that. Not everything deserves a war. Not every feeling has to be thrown onto the table the moment it arrives.

    But there is a difference between picking your battles and surrendering your voice.

    That difference matters.

    Because if you keep saying yes when your spirit means no, something begins to happen inside you. Resentment grows quietly. Not all at once. Not loud enough at first to be called by its name. But it grows. It settles behind the eyes. It sits in the chest. It changes the way you listen. It turns love into labor and patience into performance.

    And before long, you are no longer keeping the peace.

    You are disappearing inside it.

    I think about that old phrase some men lived by, especially men from older generations: happy wife, happy life.

    There is something understandable in it, I suppose. A man trying to keep harmony in his home. A man trying not to disturb the person he loves. A man trying to avoid unnecessary storms.

    But taken too far, it becomes dangerous.

    Because your happiness cannot always come at the expense of mine.

    Your comfort cannot require my silence.

    Your peace cannot be built on my dignity being traded away one small lie at a time.

    That is not love.

    That is management.

    That is fear wearing the clothes of devotion.

    A healthy relationship cannot be built on one person constantly swallowing the truth so the other person never has to taste discomfort. Both people have to be willing to hear what is real. Both people have to agree, truly agree, that honesty is not an attack. That a boundary is not a rejection. That communication is not disrespectful simply because it reveals something inconvenient.

    Because love without truth becomes theater.

    Two people smiling as they slowly lie to each other.

    Maybe not lying dramatically. Not betrayal. Not deception with a plan behind it. But the quieter kind of lying. The kind where you say, “I’m fine,” when you are not. The kind where you pretend something does not bother you because you are tired of explaining why it does. The kind where you let someone believe they are loving you well because you have stopped telling them where it hurts.

    And that helps no one.

    Healthy boundaries begin with the understanding that each person still belongs to themselves.

    Even in love.

    Especially in love.

    You can be committed and still have needs.

    You can be kind and still say no.

    You can care deeply and still tell the truth.

    You can want peace and still refuse to purchase it at the cost of your dignity.

    That is the guide, as I understand it.

    Be honest before the silence becomes resentment.

    Communicate before the wound becomes a wall.

    Speak with care, but speak.

    Listen without preparing your defense.

    Make room for the other person’s truth, but do not abandon your own.

    And most of all, do not confuse love with the disappearance of self.

    Real love should not require two people to constantly lie to protect each other’s feelings. Real love should be strong enough to survive honesty. It should be tender enough to handle correction. It should be mature enough to understand that boundaries are not walls meant to keep love out.

    They are doors with locks.

    They teach people how to enter with respect.

    And if both people are willing to tell the truth, listen to the truth, and honor what the truth reveals, then the relationship has a chance to become something deeper than peacekeeping.

    Kyle J. Hayes

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  • Do you think humans will ever colonize Mars? What would life there actually look like?

    Do you think humans will ever colonize Mars? What would life there actually look like?

    Yes, I do

    But I do not believe we will go there because we suddenly became wiser.

    I do not believe we will go because humanity looked up at the night sky, humbled by the smallness of our place in the universe, and decided to become better stewards of existence.

    That would be a beautiful story.

    I don’t think it is the true one.

    I think we will go because Earth is becoming harder to live on.

    Or because something valuable is found there.

    Or because the wealthy decide the future should have a private entrance.

    That sounds harsh, maybe. But history has taught me to be careful with any dream sold as progress when profit is standing somewhere in the room, quiet and smiling.

    Mars will not simply be a new world.

    It will be a mirror.

    And what it reflects may not flatter us.

    We like to imagine colonizing Mars as some grand human achievement. A flag planted in red dust. A bright dome under a strange sky. A child born beneath another planet’s sun. We imagine clean machines, brave scientists, heroic explorers, and the swelling music of destiny.

    But I wonder what life there would actually look like after the cameras are gone.

    Who gets to breathe the cleanest air?

    Who gets the safest shelter?

    Who owns the water?

    Who owns the land beneath a dome they did not build with their own hands?

    Who works outside when the suits fail?

    Who cleans the filters?

    Who repairs the machines?

    Who risks the radiation?

    Who serves the meals?

    Who digs, carries, installs, maintains, and disappears from the official story?

    Because that is the part we often skip.

    Every empire has loved the language of discovery.

    But somebody always does the labor.

    Somebody always pays the cost.

    If we build a world on Mars, I fear it will not be a world of equals. I fear it will become what so much of Earth already is: a place divided between those who own the future and those who are hired to survive inside it.

    The extremely wealthy above.

    The workers below.

    Different planet.

    Same old arrangement.

    Maybe the rich will live in beautiful enclosed cities with artificial gardens, private schools, controlled weather, and windows facing the stars. Maybe they will speak of bravery and innovation while sipping water recycled by systems they did not design, repair, or understand.

    And maybe the poor will live in tighter quarters, in service corridors, in work units, in maintenance bays, in the parts of the colony no brochure ever shows.

    Maybe their bodies will be used as proof that the settlement is possible.

    Maybe their sacrifice will be called an opportunity.

    That is usually how these things go.

    And still, the saddest part to me is this: much of the technology required to make Mars livable could probably teach us how to better care for Earth.

    Closed-loop systems.

    Clean energy.

    Water conservation.

    Food grown in difficult conditions.

    Air filtration.

    Waste reduction.

    Efficient housing.

    All this genius is aimed at surviving in a hostile world. In contrast, the world that has already given us oceans, forests, rain, soil, breath, and morning keeps being treated like something disposable.

    There is something almost tragic in that.

    The human imagination is powerful enough to dream of living on Mars, but not disciplined enough to stop poisoning the place where we already live.

    We can imagine domes on another planet before we can imagine justice on this one.

    We can imagine terraforming Mars before we can imagine repairing Flint, cooling overheated cities, feeding hungry people, or protecting the only atmosphere that has ever held us without a machine.

    That bothers me.

    Because Mars is not home.

    Not yet.

    Maybe not ever in the way Earth is home.

    Mars has no ancestral memory for us. No childhood streets. No grandmother’s kitchen. No rain against the window. No trees bending in summer wind. No soil holds the bones of our people. No rivers that know our names.

    Earth has carried us.

    And we have treated her like a thing to be conquered.

    So what makes us think Mars would be spared?

    That is the question I cannot shake.

    If the same hunger goes with us, the same greed, the same need to own, extract, divide, rank, and consume, then Mars will not be a fresh start.

    It will be a red continuation.

    We will take our flags.

    Our markets.

    Our class systems.

    Our gated communities.

    Our labor exploitation.

    Our myths of progress.

    And we will call it civilization.

    Maybe there will be beauty there, too. I do not want to deny that. There will be people who go for the right reasons. Scientists. Engineers. Dreamers. Workers are trying to build something better than what they left behind. Children born there will look at Earth as a blue light in the sky and wonder what it felt like to stand beneath open rain.

    There will be courage.

    There will be loneliness.

    There will be an invention.

    There will be grief.

    There will be music, eventually. Food, eventually. Rituals, eventually. Some new version of humanity is trying to make meaning under a sky that does not yet belong to memory.

    But unless we change the spirit we carry with us, the colony will inherit the disease of the old world.

    That is what I believe.

    Humans may colonize Mars.

    But the harder question is whether we will deserve to.

    Because leaving Earth is not the same as outgrowing what we did here.

    A rocket can escape gravity.

    It cannot escape greed.

    It cannot escape history.

    It cannot escape the human habit of turning every promised land into property.

    So yes, I believe we may live on Mars one day.

    But I hope, before that happens, we learn to live better here.

    Because if we cannot honor the planet that made us, I do not trust what we will become on the planet that must be manufactured to keep us alive.

    Kyle J. Hayes

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  • What is something you wish you could tell your 20-year-old self?

    What is something you wish you could tell your 20-year-old self?

    I would tell him to come home to himself sooner.

    Not home as a place.

    Home as a knowing.

    Home is that quiet room inside you where your own voice still lives before the world teaches you to mistrust it.

    I would tell my 20-year-old self to stop spending so much of his life auditioning for people who were never going to choose him, honestly. Stop bending yourself into shapes that do not fit your spirit. Stop mistaking acceptance for love. Stop confusing attention with belonging.

    Because there is a difference.

    And learning that difference can cost you years.

    At twenty, you think being liked will save you.

    You think if you become easier, funnier, quieter, louder, more agreeable, more useful, more available, more whatever the room seems to require, then maybe people will keep you around. Maybe they will see you. Maybe they will decide you are worth knowing.

    But some people do not dislike you for failing to become enough.

    Some people were never interested in getting to know you at all.

    They were interested in what you could provide.

    Your time.

    Your loyalty.

    Your attention.

    Your silence.

    Your willingness to shrink yourself so they would not have to make room.

    That is a hard lesson.

    But it is a freeing one.

    I would tell him this: do not waste your best years trying to become acceptable to people who benefit from you not knowing your worth.

    Spend that time discovering who you are.

    Not who you perform.

    Not who you pretend to be when you are afraid of being left out.

    Not who you become when loneliness starts negotiating against your dignity.

    Who you are.

    What you love.

    What you believe.

    What brings you peace?

    What kind of man do you want to become when no one is clapping?

    What kind of life feels honest when nobody is watching?

    I would tell him that solitude is not always punishment. Sometimes it is protection. Sometimes being alone is the first place where you can finally hear yourself without all the borrowed voices talking over you.

    There is grief in realizing how much time you gave away.

    Time you could have used to grow.

    To read.

    To think.

    To build.

    To heal.

    To understand your own mind.

    To become comfortable in your own skin.

    To stop asking strangers, friends, lovers, and crowds for permission to exist.

    But I would not speak to him cruelly.

    He was doing the best he could with what he knew.

    He wanted a connection.

    He wanted to matter.

    He wanted to be loved in a world that often teaches people to earn what should have been given freely.

    So I would not shame him for trying.

    I recommend telling him to try differently.

    Try choosing yourself.

    Try telling the truth sooner.

    Try leaving when the room keeps requiring your disappearance.

    Try noticing who only loves you when you are convenient.

    Try paying attention to the people who make you feel peaceful rather than desperate.

    Try building a life that does not depend on approval from people who have not even learned to approve of themselves.

    Because one day, you will understand something that a twenty-year-old could not yet know.

    The goal was never to become the kind of person everyone liked.

    The goal was to become someone you could live with.

    Someone you could respect.

    Someone whose reflection did not look like a stranger assembled from other people’s expectations.

    I would tell him that self-discovery is not selfish.

    It is necessary.

    You cannot build a true life out of borrowed pieces. You cannot keep abandoning yourself and call it love. You cannot keep giving your time to people who leave you with less of yourself and expect peace to grow there.

    So I would tell my 20-year-old self:

    Come back to you.

    Earlier.

    Stay with you.

    Longer.

    Learn yourself before trying to be chosen.

    Because the people meant for your life should not require you to disappear before they can accept you.

    And the time you spend becoming yourself is never wasted.

    Kyle J. Hayes

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  • What are the biggest mistakes people make when visiting your country?

    What are the biggest mistakes people make when visiting your country?

    I think one of the biggest mistakes people make when visiting the United States is believing they have arrived in one place.

    Technically, yes.

    It is one country.

    One flag. One federal government. One name printed across maps and passports. But to move through America as if it is all the same is to miss one of the strangest and most interesting things about it.

    America is not one room.

    It is a house with many rooms.

    And each room has its own temperature.

    It’s own smell.

    Its own music coming from somewhere down the hallway.

    Its own way of speaking, eating, driving, laughing, arguing, welcoming, warning, and remembering.

    You can land in New York and think you understand America because you have seen the tall buildings, the crowded sidewalks, the hurry in people’s steps, the way everyone seems to be late for a life they are already living. New York has its own rhythm. Fast. Sharp. Alive. A place where the food comes from everywhere, and the streets feel like they are always in conversation.

    But New York is not Texas.

    Texas stretches itself out differently. The sky feels larger there. The food speaks in smoke, spice, beef, heat, and pride. The pace changes. The accent changes. The idea of distance changes. A short drive in Texas might be a whole afternoon somewhere else.

    And Texas is not Florida.

    Florida is almost its own world.

    Part Southern, part Caribbean, part retirement dream, part swamp, part beach, part chaos, part beauty. A place where sunshine can feel like paradise in the morning and a warning by afternoon. Florida does not always make sense, but maybe that is part of its personality. It refuses to be only one thing.

    Then there are all the other places people forget when they speak of America too quickly.

    The Midwest, where politeness can be both warmth and code.

    The South, where history sits at the table whether it is invited or not, and where food can taste like memory, labor, grief, celebration, and somebody’s grandmother refusing to measure anything.

    The West Coast, with its ocean edges, wellness language, ambition, earthquakes, reinvention, and strange mixture of freedom and performance.

    The Southwest, with its desert light, green chile, Native presence, Mexican influence, adobe walls, open sky, and a kind of beauty that does not shout but stays with you.

    The Pacific Northwest, gray and green, coffee-warmed, rain-softened, full of trees and quiet moods.

    The Appalachian places.

    The prairie places.

    The border towns.

    The old industrial cities.

    The small towns where everybody knows your truck before they know your name.

    The mistake is thinking America can be understood from one airport, one city, one movie, one accent, one stereotype, or one plate of food.

    It cannot.

    This country is too large for that.

    Too contradictory.

    Too regional.

    Too full of people who share a nation but not always a culture.

    Even the language changes depending on where you are. The same word can be pronounced differently in different mouths. A greeting can be quick and clipped in one place, slow and musical in another. Some people say soda. Some say pop. Some say Coke means almost anything carbonated. Some places put sugar in the tea before you even ask. Some places look at you strangely if you ask for it that way.

    Food may be one of the clearest maps.

    Pizza in New York.

    Barbecue in Texas, Kansas City, Memphis, and the Carolinas, each one ready to defend itself in court if necessary.

    Seafood in Maryland and Louisiana.

    Green chile in New Mexico.

    Cuban sandwiches in Florida.

    Hotdish in Minnesota.

    Gumbo, biscuits, tacos, bagels, burgers, fried chicken, clam chowder, soul food, diner food, food trucks, and gas station food that has no business being as good as it is.

    Every region has its own appetite.

    And appetite tells the truth.

    So if someone is visiting the United States, I would tell them not to come here looking for one America.

    Come here ready to meet many.

    Do not assume Los Angeles explains Chicago.

    Do not assume Miami explains Atlanta.

    Do not assume Boston explains New Orleans.

    Do not assume Las Vegas explains anything except Las Vegas.

    Each place has a story. Each place has a mood. Each place has a history beneath the surface. Some of it is beautiful. Some of it is painful. Some of it is loud. Some of it is buried. But it is there.

    That is the real lesson.

    America is not simple.

    It is not one flavor.

    It is not one accent.

    It is not one kind of person.

    It is a country of regions pretending to be a single idea, and somehow, for better and worse, still trying to hold together.

    So the biggest mistake visitors make is assuming America is all the same.

    It is not.

    America is a collection of different places, foods, accents, histories, and ways of life. That is what makes traveling through it interesting. The best way to experience the United States is to stay curious, pay attention, try the local food, listen to how people speak, and remember that every state has its own story to tell.

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  • What’s a song that always puts you in a good mood?

    What’s a song that always puts you in a good mood?

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    This may be one of the best writing prompts I have seen.

    Even thinking about the answer makes me smile.

    Some songs do not simply play. They arrive. They kick the door open. They bring light with them. They grab some younger version of you by the hand and pull him back into the room before you have time to argue with memory.

    For me, that song is “Walking on Sunshine” by Katrina and the Waves.

    I am Gen X, so that song does not just sound like music to me.

    It sounds like high school.

    It sounds like MTV.

    It sounds like Converse Chuck Taylors hitting the floor with the quiet confidence of somebody who did not yet know all the things life would ask him to carry.

    And yes, I had several pairs.

    Of course I did.

    Some songs make you think. Some songs make you remember. Some songs sit beside you in sadness and help you name the ache.

    But this one is different.

    This one is joy with its sleeves rolled up.

    It does not ask permission. It does not arrive carefully. It does not knock politely and wait to see if you are emotionally prepared. It just starts, bright and shameless, and suddenly the room changes.

    That opening hits, and something in me stands up.

    Not the serious part.

    Not the tired part.

    Not the part that pays bills, watches the news, carries old pain, and tries to make meaning out of everything.

    The other part.

    The part that still remembers being young.

    The part that remembers when music videos felt like events. When the world seemed to come through the television in color, noise, and possibility. When a song could live in your head all day and make even an ordinary walk feel like a scene from something larger.

    That is what “Walking on Sunshine” does.

    It takes me back without making me feel trapped there.

    That matters.

    Some nostalgia is heavy. Some songs pull you into the past and leave you standing in rooms you cannot return to. But this song does not feel like grief. It feels like a window being thrown open.

    It feels like sneakers.

    It feels like sunlight.

    It feels ridiculous and uncaring.

    And yes, it is still on my playlist.

    Absolutely.

    Some songs earn permanent residence. They survive every version of you. They stay through changing tastes, changing years, changing moods, changing bodies. They remain because they know how to reach a place in you that has not been ruined by time.

    That place is important.

    We talk a lot about pain. About healing. About survival. About what we lost and what we are still trying to understand.

    But joy deserves witnesses, too.

    Joy deserves to be named.

    Joy deserves its own altar, even if that altar is just a YouTube video, an old song, and a grown man singing like no one is listening.

    And that is exactly what I plan to do after I finish writing this.

    I am going to play the video.

    I am going to let the song do what it has always done.

    I am going to smile.

    I am going to sing.

    Badly, maybe.

    Loudly, probably.

    Freely, definitely.

    Because sometimes the soul does not need a lesson.

    Sometimes it needs three minutes and a change of pure, unreasonable brightness.

    Sometimes it needs to remember that not everything has to be heavy to be true.

    Sometimes it needs to walk on sunshine

    Kyle J. Hayes

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  • What’s a fear you’ve overcome — and how did you do it?

    What’s a fear you’ve overcome — and how did you do it?

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    The fear I had to overcome was the fear of truly expressing myself.

    Not writing.

    I could write.

    I had always known there were words somewhere inside me, moving around in the dark, waiting for a place to go. But expression is different from writing. Expression asks more of you. Expression does not let you hide behind cleverness or distance. It asks you to bring the real thing forward.

    The feeling.

    The thought.

    The wound.

    The part of yourself you learned to protect because the world had already shown you what it could do with anything soft.

    I grew up being teased for anything and everything. That kind of thing does not leave you all at once. People like to pretend childhood cruelty is small because children are small, but that is not true. Small hands can still leave fingerprints. Small voices can still become the echoes a person carries into adulthood.

    After a while, you learn to hold yourself back.

    You learn to measure every word before it leaves your mouth. You learn to hide enthusiasm. You learn to make yourself less visible. You learn that being seen can feel dangerous.

    So the idea of putting myself on paper, my feelings, my thoughts, my pain, my emotions, and then placing it online where anyone could read it, was terrifying.

    It felt almost unnatural.

    Like standing in the middle of a room and taking off the armor I had spent years building.

    And yet, I did it.

    Not all at once.

    Not bravely in the way people imagine bravery.

    I did it one piece at a time.

    A sentence.

    A paragraph.

    A post.

    A confession softened by craft.

    A truth placed carefully enough that I could survive seeing it outside my body.

    The more I wrote, the more something inside me began to loosen. Not disappear. Not healed completely. But loosen. Writing became a way to take what had been trapped inside me and give it shape. Once it had shape, it was no longer just pain. It was testimony. It was a memory. It was language. It was something I could hold, examine, revise, and understand.

    And the more I did it, the better I felt.

    The better I got.

    That matters too.

    Because fear wants you to believe that expression will destroy you. It tells you that if people see the real thing, they will laugh. They will turn away. They will misunderstand. They will prove every old voice right.

    And sometimes people may not understand.

    But sometimes they do.

    Sometimes someone leaves a comment that lets you know your words reached a place in them they had not been able to name. Sometimes someone tells you that what you wrote helped them. Sometimes they do not say it loudly, but you can feel it. They saw themselves in your story. They realized they were not the only ones who had carried that kind of ache.

    That changes something.

    Because then the writing is not only about me.

    It becomes a bridge.

    A small one, maybe.

    But still a bridge.

    One person telling the truth from one side of loneliness, and another person hearing it from the other.

    That is how I overcame the fear.

    Not by becoming fearless.

    I do not think that is how fear works.

    I overcame it by learning that the fear did not get the final vote. I overcame it by writing anyway. By sharing anyway. By letting the work prove to me that vulnerability does not always lead to humiliation. Sometimes it leads to a connection. Sometimes it leads to healing. Sometimes it becomes the very thing that helps someone else survive their own silence.

    And in helping them, I help myself.

    That may be the part I did not expect.

    Every time someone responds and says, in some way, I know this feeling too, I am reminded that I am not alone either. The pain I thought was only mine was never only mine. The fear I thought made me strange was part of being human. The loneliness I carried had echoes in other people.

    Writing taught me that.

    Or maybe sharing did.

    Private writing can save you in one way. But public honesty can save you in the long run. It can turn the locked room into a doorway.

    I still feel the fear sometimes.

    I still know what it costs to tell the truth.

    But I also know what silence costs.

    And I have paid enough for that.

    So I keep writing.

    I keep placing pieces of myself on the page.

    Not because it is easy.

    Because somewhere, someone may need the words.

    And maybe I need them too.

    Kyle J. Hayes

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  • Do you believe in soulmates?

    Do you believe in soulmates?

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    I want to.

    That is the honest answer.

    Not the polished one. Not the answer dressed up for people who need certainty. Not the answer that pretends I have made peace with everything the world has shown me.

    I want to believe in soulmates.

    I want to believe there is someone out there whose spirit recognizes yours before language has to explain anything. Someone who sees the strange shape of your silence and does not run from it. Someone who understands the parts of you that came from pain, not because they enjoy the wound, but because they know healing does not happen when a person is asked to hide what hurt them.

    I want to believe in the kind of love that feels less like discovery and more like return.

    Like arriving somewhere your soul had been walking toward before your body knew the road.

    But the world has a way of making belief expensive.

    The world keeps showing me something else.

    That people leave.

    That promises can be made sincerely and still break under the weight of ordinary life.

    That chemistry is not destiny.

    That wanting someone deeply does not mean they are meant for you.

    That longing can dress itself up as fate if you are lonely enough.

    And that is the part that bothers me.

    Because I would love for soulmates to be true.

    I would love for there to be some sacred architecture beneath all this confusion. Some quiet design. Some person placed in the world with a heart shaped closely enough to mine that, when we finally found each other, the ache would make sense.

    But reality is rarely that gentle.

    In reality, love is not a fairytale.

    It is not guaranteed.

    It does not arrive because you have suffered enough to deserve it. It does not guarantee a reward for endurance. It does not always find the people who are ready for it. It does not always stay with the people who would have honored it.

    And maybe that is why the idea of soulmates hurts.

    Not because it is childish.

    Because it is beautiful.

    And beautiful things are painful when the world keeps refusing to confirm them.

    There is a sadness in wanting to believe something your experience keeps disproving. A private kind of grief. The kind you do not always say out loud because people will either mock you for being too romantic or scold you for being too bitter.

    But I do not think it is bitter to tell the truth.

    I think it is human.

    I think most of us carry some version of this question.

    Is there someone made for me?

    Or am I supposed to keep becoming whole without waiting for anyone to recognize the pieces?

    Maybe the truth is that soulmates do not exist the way we were taught to imagine them. Maybe no one is born as the missing half of us. Maybe no one comes fully equipped to understand, heal, rescue, and complete another person.

    Maybe that is too much to place on any human being.

    Maybe it is unfair.

    But still.

    Still, I understand the wanting.

    I understand wanting one person whose presence makes the room feel less hostile. One person who sees you without turning you into a project. One person who chooses you without needing you to become easier to love.

    That desire is not foolish.

    It is tender.

    It is proof that some part of us still believes connection should be deeper than convenience. That love should be more than timing, attraction, shared interests, and fear of being alone.

    But if I am honest, I do not know if I believe in soulmates anymore.

    I believe in compatibility.

    I believe in effort.

    I believe in kindness repeated over time.

    I believe in people choosing each other after the first spell wears off.

    I believe in friendship as the spine of love.

    I believe in patience.

    I believe in the quiet work of learning someone honestly, not the fantasy version, not the convenient version, but the real person standing there with their history, habits, wounds, and weather.

    Maybe that is less magical.

    But maybe it is more merciful.

    Because if soulmates are not real, then love is not about finding the one person the universe assigned to you.

    It is about finding someone willing to build something true.

    And being willing to build it too.

    Still, I will not pretend the loss of the fairytale does not make me sad.

    It does.

    There is a grief in outgrowing certain hopes.

    There is a loneliness in realizing the world may not be arranged around our deepest desires.

    But maybe there is also freedom there.

    A hard freedom.

    The freedom to stop waiting for fate to prove we are lovable.

    The freedom to know that love, if it comes, will not be less meaningful because it was not written in the stars.

    Maybe it will matter more because two people, with every reason to be selfish, distracted, afraid, and wounded, chose tenderness anyway.

    Not because destiny forced them.

    Because they decided.

    And maybe that is the closest thing we get.

    Not soulmates as a fairytale.

    Not one perfect person made to complete us.

    But two imperfect people choosing, again and again, not to make the world harder for each other.

    I wish I believed in soulmates.

    I truly do.

    But maybe what I believe in now is quieter.

    Less certain.

    Less romantic in the old way.

    I believe in the ache that makes us hope for them.

    I believe in the sadness that comes when we doubt they exist.

    I believe in the courage it takes to keep a soft place inside yourself, even after the world keeps showing you reasons to harden.

    And maybe that softness is the soul’s real mate.

    The part of us that still wants love to be true.

    Even when we are no longer sure the fairytale is

    Kyle J. Hayes

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  • Do you believe in minimalism?

    Do you believe in minimalism?

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    Yes.

    But not as a trend.

    Not as a clean white room arranged for somebody else’s approval. Not as a performance of emptiness. Not as another way for the world to sell us less, package it beautifully, and convince us we have become more enlightened because the shelf looks better in the photograph.

    I believe in minimalism as a kind of quiet.

    A kind of release.

    A way of asking yourself, again and again, What am I actually carrying?

    For the past few years, I have felt myself moving in that direction. Slowly. Not perfectly. Not with some grand announcement. Just little decisions. Fewer things. Less clutter. Less noise sitting in corners. Less to clean around. Less to keep track of. Less to worry about when the mind is already full.

    There is a kind of exhaustion that comes from owning too much.

    Not just physically.

    Spiritually.

    Every object asks something of you. It wants space. It wants attention. It wants maintenance. It wants to be remembered, moved, dusted, stored, protected, justified. And after a while, a room can become crowded with versions of yourself you no longer are.

    The shoes you thought would make you someone else.

    You bought the gadget because it promised convenience.

    The clothes for a life you imagined but never lived.

    The things kept out of guilt.

    The things kept out of fear.

    The things were kept because maybe someday.

    Minimalism, for me, is not about having nothing.

    It is about learning what deserves to remain.

    That is the part people miss sometimes. They think minimalism is about denial. About stripping life down until it becomes cold and severe. But I do not want a life without warmth. I do not want a home without memory. I do not want a table with no evidence of living.

    I want enough.

    That word has become more important to me with time.

    Enough.

    Not the latest.

    Not the greatest.

    Not the thing everyone is praising this week, only to forget it next month.

    Enough to live.

    Enough to think.

    Enough to breathe.

    Enough to make a meal, write a page, sit in quiet, and not feel chased by my own possessions.

    There is something powerful about discovering what you truly need. Because once you begin to see it clearly, the world’s noise loses some of its authority. The advertisement becomes less convincing. The upgrade becomes less urgent. The hunger to prove something through ownership begins to weaken.

    And maybe underneath all of that, you find the harder question.

    What is important?

    Not what looks impressive.

    Not what fills the room.

    Not what makes other people assume you are doing well.

    But what actually matters when the door is closed, and no one is watching.

    Peace matters.

    Clarity matters.

    A good chair.

    A quiet morning.

    A clean counter.

    A notebook.

    A meal made without hurry.

    A home that does not feel like a storage unit for anxiety.

    A life with enough space left in it to hear yourself think.

    That is what I am moving toward.

    Not perfection.

    Not aesthetic purity.

    Just less of what weighs me down.

    More of what lets me breathe.

    Because the truth is, I do not want to spend my life managing things I never truly needed. I do not want to be buried beneath my wants and call it abundance. I do not want my attention scattered across objects that cannot love me back.

    I want a life that feels honest.

    Simple.

    Quiet.

    Mine.

    So yes, I believe in minimalism.

    But more than that, I believe in making room.

    Room for peace.

    Room for thought.

    Room for gratitude.

    Room for the person I am still becoming.

    Kyle J. Hayes

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  • What’s the first book you ever finished and still remember to this day?

    What’s the first book you ever finished and still remember to this day?

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    The first grown-up book I remember finishing was Pawn of Prophecy by David Eddings.

    I call it grown-up because, to the boy I was then, grown-up did not mean taxes, sorrow, responsibility, or learning how to carry silence in your chest without letting it spill everywhere.

    Grown-up meant no pictures.

    Grown-up meant more than two hundred pages.

    Grown-up meant opening a book and realizing nobody was going to help you with images anymore. The world was not going to be handed to you in color and ink. You had to build it yourself. You had to listen to the words, trust them, and let your own mind do part of the work.

    That was new to me.

    Before that, reading had often come with pictures. Comic books had taught me movement. They had taught me color, conflict, rhythm, and myth. They had taught me that pain could wear a cape, that responsibility could arrive before a person was ready, that the world was always asking somebody to stand up.

    But Pawn of Prophecy did something different.

    It slowed me down.

    It invited me into a world that did not appear all at once. It unfolded. A little here. A little there. A name. A road. A secret. A strange feeling that the ordinary life of one boy might not be ordinary at all.

    That is one of the great promises of fantasy.

    The idea that you may be more than you have been told.

    That the small place you begin is not the full measure of your life.

    That somewhere beyond the familiar road, there may be danger, yes, but also meaning.

    I did not know then that I was being drawn into a tradition. I did not have the language for genre, worldbuilding, archetype, quest, prophecy, or inheritance. I just knew that I wanted to keep going.

    Page after page.

    Chapter after chapter.

    Not because someone made me.

    Because I wanted to know.

    That mattered.

    Many children are taught to read as a duty. As homework. As proof. As something adults measure, grade, and turn into performance. But this book helped me learn that reading could be a pleasure. Reading could be hunger. Reading could be a private door opening inside an ordinary day.

    I read the rest of the series.

    Then I read the second series that came later.

    That is how obsession begins sometimes. Not with thunder. Not with some grand declaration. Just one book that works its way into you and leaves the door open behind it.

    And once that door is open, you become dangerous in the best possible way.

    You become a child who knows there are other worlds.

    You become someone who understands that paper can hold kingdoms.

    You become someone who can sit in a room, turn a page, and be gone.

    Gone, but not lost.

    Elsewhere, but still becoming.

    I think back on that book now not only because of the story itself, but because of what it gave me permission to feel. It told me that long books did not have to be intimidating. That imagination was not childish. That fantasy was not an escape, as people sometimes say, with judgment in their mouths.

    Fantasy was training.

    It was a rehearsal for wonder.

    It was a way of learning that the visible world is not the only world.

    And maybe that is why I remember it so clearly. Because that book did not just lead me into science fiction and fantasy. It taught me that stories could be lived inside. It taught me that a book without pictures could still fill the mind with images. It taught me that reading was not only something you did.

    It was somewhere you went.

    These days, I do not spend as much time reading what other people have created. I have been trying to build my own. Trying to take the lessons those old books left behind and shape them into something that carries my own breath, my own questions, my own ache.

    But I remember where it started.

    With more than two hundred pages and no pictures.

    Kyle J. Hayes

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  • What’s a movie you expected to hate but ended up loving?

    What’s a movie you expected to hate but ended up loving?

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    Sharknado.

    Even now, saying the name makes me smile.

    Not because it was elegant.

    Not because it was some carefully carved piece of cinema, polished until every corner reflected prestige. Nobody sat down in front of Sharknado expecting the sacred hush of a theater full of people witnessing art descend from the heavens.

    The title told you what it was.

    Sharks.

    In a tornado.

    That was the promise.

    And somehow, against all good sense, it kept it.

    I do not remember exactly when I first watched it. I only remember not knowing what to expect. Maybe that was part of its strange little magic. Some movies disappoint you because they reach for greatness and miss. Some movies bury themselves under ambition, money, special effects, celebrity, and the desperate need to be taken seriously.

    Then there is Sharknado, standing there with no shame at all, holding up the most ridiculous idea it could find and saying, Here. Watch this.

    And I did.

    And I loved it.

    It looked, at times, like it had been filmed and edited in somebody’s garage after everyone had already agreed not to ask too many questions. The effects were not trying to fool the eye so much as wink at it. The plot moved with the logic of a dream you have after eating too late and falling asleep with the television on.

    But somehow, it worked.

    Because it knew its mission.

    Entertainment.

    That sounds simple, but it is not always respected. Somewhere along the way, people started acting like fun was not enough. Like everything had to justify itself. Like a movie could not simply exist to make you laugh, shake your head, and say, “What am I watching?”

    Sharknado understood something that many expensive movies forget.

    You do not always need a massive budget to make something memorable.

    You do not always need perfection.

    Sometimes you need a wild idea, full commitment, and enough honesty to admit exactly what kind of ride you are taking people on.

    That is what made it work for me.

    It did not pretend to be more than it was. It did not dress itself up in false importance. It gave us sharks in a tornado, and once it began, there was no backing away from the absurdity. It leaned in. It committed. It trusted the joke enough to let the whole movie live inside it.

    And I respect that.

    There is a lesson in that, maybe. A strange one, but a real one.

    Sometimes we underestimate the thing that knows exactly what it is.

    Sometimes we laugh at what looks cheap, simple, or foolish, not realizing that sincerity can survive without polish. Not realizing that entertainment does not always arrive wearing a tuxedo. Sometimes it comes flying through the sky with teeth.

    I expected to hate it.

    Instead, I watched the sequels as they came out.

    Each one more absurd than the last. Each one was somehow aware that the audience had not come for restraint. We came for the storm. We came for the madness. We came because, for a little while, nobody had to pretend this made sense.

    That is a gift too.

    A ridiculous gift.

    A low-budget, impossible, airborne-shark kind of gift.

    And maybe that is why I still think about it with affection. Because Sharknado reminded Hollywood of something ordinary people already knew.

    You do not always need a huge budget to entertain somebody.

    You need imagination.

    You need nerve.

    You need to understand the promise you are making.

    And if your promise is sharks in a tornado, then give us sharks in a tornado.

    Kyle J. Hayes

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